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13 yo physically violent with me, siblings
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<blockquote data-quote="HMBgal" data-source="post: 705961" data-attributes="member: 13260"><p>I'm not at that point yet. And I don't think grandson is at that point, although I do think that he will hurt someone when he's in a rage and picks up the first thing at hand and throws it as hard as he can. He's been suspended from school twice this year for pushing over a desk and screaming at his aide and teacher. Right now, it's property damage. But we do feel like we're walking on eggshells waiting for the next blow-up, and it doesn't take much. He has gotten better at holding back on attacking us and resorts to screaming horrible things in the most piercing, loud voice imaginable while his face and eyes are literally red and his face wet with tears. In between, he's so sweet, genuinely remorseful, says he hates himself, doesn't understand why he's the way he is, is very hopeless about his future, etc. It's heartbreaking. And yes, there are times when I feel like it's too much, it's unfair to my husband and myself, and to grandson himself. Despite every best effort, I'm fighting against insurance companies, etc. to get him the help he needs. I've given up on getting my daughter the help she needs. She's 40. I've bailed her out too many times as it is. My focus is on getting her children raised in some sort of healthy way. I was tossed into foster care through no fault of my own at 11, my son was killed in a car crash when he was 17. I can't lose my grandson, who I love so much, too. The time may come when I have to make some very tough choices, but I'm not there yet. Sorry for the vent. It's my only really safe space to do so.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HMBgal, post: 705961, member: 13260"] I'm not at that point yet. And I don't think grandson is at that point, although I do think that he will hurt someone when he's in a rage and picks up the first thing at hand and throws it as hard as he can. He's been suspended from school twice this year for pushing over a desk and screaming at his aide and teacher. Right now, it's property damage. But we do feel like we're walking on eggshells waiting for the next blow-up, and it doesn't take much. He has gotten better at holding back on attacking us and resorts to screaming horrible things in the most piercing, loud voice imaginable while his face and eyes are literally red and his face wet with tears. In between, he's so sweet, genuinely remorseful, says he hates himself, doesn't understand why he's the way he is, is very hopeless about his future, etc. It's heartbreaking. And yes, there are times when I feel like it's too much, it's unfair to my husband and myself, and to grandson himself. Despite every best effort, I'm fighting against insurance companies, etc. to get him the help he needs. I've given up on getting my daughter the help she needs. She's 40. I've bailed her out too many times as it is. My focus is on getting her children raised in some sort of healthy way. I was tossed into foster care through no fault of my own at 11, my son was killed in a car crash when he was 17. I can't lose my grandson, who I love so much, too. The time may come when I have to make some very tough choices, but I'm not there yet. Sorry for the vent. It's my only really safe space to do so. [/QUOTE]
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