Hello, Reading some of these other issues, mine almost seems typical. However, I am a stay at home mother of 4 boys at home; ages 4,7,11,and 14. My 14 yr old is a newbie in High School but has had issues in school since he started middle school. He is smoking cigarettes, and marijuana. He steals from me at home and is very disrespectful towards me. He has just recently returned to his High School less than 2 weeks ago from a 6 week alternative school program (to try and get him refocused on how to be a good student) and now got in trouble again for bringing tobacco and paraphernalia to school. He is on paper thin ice with the principal and the ice is cracked. His principal told me today that I need to find an alternative because he doesn't think my son is going to make it much longer there because he won't cooperate. What do I do? I have grounded him, cleared his room, he is in counseling. He has even been to a 2-4 week behavioral center to get him straightened out. He does OK for about 2 weeks when he comes home, then it's back to making the same mistakes. I enrolled him into the Gem State Young Marines program and I was called to come get him the same night they started their boot camp or they were going to call the police on him for battery. I am just lost for what to do. He is constantly in trouble at school and at home. Grounding just makes it worse for everyone. My apologies for rambling on, I am just in desperate need of help and don't know where to look.