Help! I am so frustrated. My oldest is 15, gets good grades, has mostly behaved well but has been angry for years about his younger sister who has only finally been diagnosed with bipolar disorder but before that created a lot of chaos - and also probably angry about his dad's and my divorce two years ago though we are amicable. He has completely refused to talk to therapists and only argues with them about how stupid therapy is. Started smoking pot last spring and we came down hard- drug testing, privileges severely restricted etc. after he was clean and begged us this fall we loosened up and now he smokes several times a week in my house and won't stop. Won't talk to the therapist. Debated merits of pot with his pediatrician today! I don't mind coming down hard on him again but at this point I don't think he will stop. I cut off his allowance. Do I call the cops? Put him into treatment? I worry with the first it will destroy his chances of getting into college and with the second he will be so angry he will turn to harder drugs. He thinks I am crazy to react this way about pot but my sense and his behavior demonstrates he is not using casually. Plus I cannot tolerate this in my house! I'm livid about that! He agree to see a psychiatrist next week but I think he is hoping she hands him legal medications that instantly make him happy. I don't know what to do.