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15 Yr Old Son: 1 Step Forward, 3 Steps Back
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 741389" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Your son has more than enough documentation to get on an IEP with special education protections. 504 does not one thing. They can expel/suspend him easily for any behaviors. With an IEP they cannot, if the behaviors are related to the qualifying condition.</p><p></p><p>They do not tell you because it is not in their interests. It costs money and work. But most of all it makes them legally accountable and responsible to actually educate your son, and to address what gets into the way. How preferable it is to call the police on your son or call you at home or at work, scapegoating him and blaming you.</p><p></p><p>There are advocates that will go with you to the IEPs. This is a necessary first step. There are a lot of mothers here who can coach you on what to do. I would today or tomorrow go to school and in writing, on a dated piece of paper request an immediate, emergency IEP, and request evaluation by the school psychologist. Get a date stamped copy of the letter that you submit. They are obligated to meet within a specified time. I forget how long. My son was on an IEP for 12 years based only upon ADHD under the category "other health impaired."</p><p></p><p>These are real pluses:</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>The thing is this. You will not know really what is going on until it is full blown or it resolves, with maturity. It sounds to me like you have done things PERFECTLY, you responded to him just exactly right. Every kid will have a fit and make off the wall statements. And if they don't, there is something. Hidden. Which is worse, in my book. You can't go freaking out. You didn't then. And you aren't now.</p><p></p><p>I am glad you are here. You will get a lot of information and support. And posting will help you see what you really think and feel....that is what has helped me. I was able to put down on paper so to speak the reality of what I was feeling, and then go from there.</p><p></p><p>Take care. Take time for you. This is not your fault. Not even 1 percent of it.</p><p></p><p>Meanwhile. After you write and bring the letter, call the doctor who is prescribing the medication and overseeing the treatment, and ask her or him to write a letter with your child's diagnoses. Based upon my experience with my son, even the medication bottles would be enough to meet special education criteria. They prove he is being treated for a psychiatric condition. End of story.</p><p></p><p>I was always sensitive about labeling and preferred the "other health impaired" category than mental illness. In retrospect this was foolishness on my part I think.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 741389, member: 18958"] Your son has more than enough documentation to get on an IEP with special education protections. 504 does not one thing. They can expel/suspend him easily for any behaviors. With an IEP they cannot, if the behaviors are related to the qualifying condition. They do not tell you because it is not in their interests. It costs money and work. But most of all it makes them legally accountable and responsible to actually educate your son, and to address what gets into the way. How preferable it is to call the police on your son or call you at home or at work, scapegoating him and blaming you. There are advocates that will go with you to the IEPs. This is a necessary first step. There are a lot of mothers here who can coach you on what to do. I would today or tomorrow go to school and in writing, on a dated piece of paper request an immediate, emergency IEP, and request evaluation by the school psychologist. Get a date stamped copy of the letter that you submit. They are obligated to meet within a specified time. I forget how long. My son was on an IEP for 12 years based only upon ADHD under the category "other health impaired." These are real pluses: The thing is this. You will not know really what is going on until it is full blown or it resolves, with maturity. It sounds to me like you have done things PERFECTLY, you responded to him just exactly right. Every kid will have a fit and make off the wall statements. And if they don't, there is something. Hidden. Which is worse, in my book. You can't go freaking out. You didn't then. And you aren't now. I am glad you are here. You will get a lot of information and support. And posting will help you see what you really think and feel....that is what has helped me. I was able to put down on paper so to speak the reality of what I was feeling, and then go from there. Take care. Take time for you. This is not your fault. Not even 1 percent of it. Meanwhile. After you write and bring the letter, call the doctor who is prescribing the medication and overseeing the treatment, and ask her or him to write a letter with your child's diagnoses. Based upon my experience with my son, even the medication bottles would be enough to meet special education criteria. They prove he is being treated for a psychiatric condition. End of story. I was always sensitive about labeling and preferred the "other health impaired" category than mental illness. In retrospect this was foolishness on my part I think. [/QUOTE]
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