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<blockquote data-quote="country" data-source="post: 701800" data-attributes="member: 20890"><p>Hi everyone, wanted to provide an update. In our state, the juvenile justice system was radically reformed a few years ago and they now slap kids on the wrist (probation) rather than incarcerate them. For our son, due to the rapid escalation in behavior, drug use and multiple felonies committed, all thought probation was woefully inadequate. We've worked with the court officer, doctors, school the past couple months during his inpatient CD/mental health treatment to come to a plan to have the courts place my son at a therapeutic boys ranch. It was basically known by all parties he would be sentenced in that manner. Well, come to find out at court, even with all this planning, letters of support from every one of his doctors, support staff and parents... the court cannot sentence him there because he has not committed any crimes of violence. Worst punishment available is 4 months probation, so that's what he got.</p><p>I'm flabbergasted. In just over a year he will be 18 and with these crimes he would be in prison for a few YEARS. How is he possibly supposed to learn any consequence?? He ends his 30 days of CD treatment Friday and will be discharged home. I will grant that he is much more stable and level headed than he was 2 months ago. I see a kid that really wants to be home and have another chance. On the other hand, my son is a masterful liar and I see that familiar ODD in him and know life is about to get hard again. He had us FOOLED all summer, how can I possibly know how to manage that and regain any trust, keep him safe and manage the rest of my young kids' needs? </p><p>Do we do our best and give him a second chance to succeed in home? I've heard functional family therapy and DBT would be helpful (but that's what most people say about CBT and that's always been a waste of time for him). </p><p>Or do we push to find a way to send him to the boys ranch by other means? The clock is ticking until he is 18 and I am fearful if he doesn't get major intervention his conduct issues will worsen into ASPD.... maybe there is nothing to stop that from happening though and I'm just deluding myself.... any advice appreciated.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="country, post: 701800, member: 20890"] Hi everyone, wanted to provide an update. In our state, the juvenile justice system was radically reformed a few years ago and they now slap kids on the wrist (probation) rather than incarcerate them. For our son, due to the rapid escalation in behavior, drug use and multiple felonies committed, all thought probation was woefully inadequate. We've worked with the court officer, doctors, school the past couple months during his inpatient CD/mental health treatment to come to a plan to have the courts place my son at a therapeutic boys ranch. It was basically known by all parties he would be sentenced in that manner. Well, come to find out at court, even with all this planning, letters of support from every one of his doctors, support staff and parents... the court cannot sentence him there because he has not committed any crimes of violence. Worst punishment available is 4 months probation, so that's what he got. I'm flabbergasted. In just over a year he will be 18 and with these crimes he would be in prison for a few YEARS. How is he possibly supposed to learn any consequence?? He ends his 30 days of CD treatment Friday and will be discharged home. I will grant that he is much more stable and level headed than he was 2 months ago. I see a kid that really wants to be home and have another chance. On the other hand, my son is a masterful liar and I see that familiar ODD in him and know life is about to get hard again. He had us FOOLED all summer, how can I possibly know how to manage that and regain any trust, keep him safe and manage the rest of my young kids' needs? Do we do our best and give him a second chance to succeed in home? I've heard functional family therapy and DBT would be helpful (but that's what most people say about CBT and that's always been a waste of time for him). Or do we push to find a way to send him to the boys ranch by other means? The clock is ticking until he is 18 and I am fearful if he doesn't get major intervention his conduct issues will worsen into ASPD.... maybe there is nothing to stop that from happening though and I'm just deluding myself.... any advice appreciated. [/QUOTE]
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