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17 y/o son newly diagnosed ODD and moved out...dont know how to help
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<blockquote data-quote="Triedntrue" data-source="post: 731123" data-attributes="member: 21499"><p>My son is 36 diagnosed as bipolar among other things. I tried for too many years to protect him and save him from himself. I have recently come to understand through this site and counseling that i was not helping. Most of his trouble started in 5th grade. Only your son can change himself and if you coddle and excuse him he will not get the message that he needs to change. He will take it as acceptance. I will give a small example, My son would constantly swear and verbally abuse me on the phone. I finally said you swear i hang up and i did. At first he threatened me if i hung up that he would come here among other things he was told the police would be called. I kept hanging up and sometimes even shut the phone off. He now makes more of an effort to talk civilly to me. Start with something you can handle and proceed from there. We all do this within our own time frame. Get into counseling it is hard to do this on your own. Are there other children in the house? We all have fears for our children the biggest two being jail and death. They are responsible for their own choices and for their consequences no matter how hard that is for us to accept. Also it sounds like he does not respect you or other women he could be dangerous and you need to protect yourself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Triedntrue, post: 731123, member: 21499"] My son is 36 diagnosed as bipolar among other things. I tried for too many years to protect him and save him from himself. I have recently come to understand through this site and counseling that i was not helping. Most of his trouble started in 5th grade. Only your son can change himself and if you coddle and excuse him he will not get the message that he needs to change. He will take it as acceptance. I will give a small example, My son would constantly swear and verbally abuse me on the phone. I finally said you swear i hang up and i did. At first he threatened me if i hung up that he would come here among other things he was told the police would be called. I kept hanging up and sometimes even shut the phone off. He now makes more of an effort to talk civilly to me. Start with something you can handle and proceed from there. We all do this within our own time frame. Get into counseling it is hard to do this on your own. Are there other children in the house? We all have fears for our children the biggest two being jail and death. They are responsible for their own choices and for their consequences no matter how hard that is for us to accept. Also it sounds like he does not respect you or other women he could be dangerous and you need to protect yourself. [/QUOTE]
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