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17 year old son has us feeling trapped
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<blockquote data-quote="Concerned parent" data-source="post: 702798" data-attributes="member: 21045"><p>Right, there is no one "magic" response, and every child is very different. I appreciate your response. We looked at wilderness therapy programs a couple of years ago, when he was also having a hard time, but very expensive, and some of the places sounded more like prison than truly therapeutic environments. Then for a couple of years, he seemed to be much happier with himself, on track, liked school, no major meltdowns. This year, though has been really rough, and we talked with him in clear terms that if he has another "meltdown" in which he is destroying property, we will call the police. We believe (and we may be wrong, we just do the best we can) that he does have other skills for dealing with intense emotions, but is, at some level, choosing this kind of response as a way to keep us paralyzed. No way to live. We also repeated how horrified, angry and scared we were that he used the cars, and the potential consequences. And the same mantra, we know that he has taken the car again, we call 911 immediately. He didn't have much to say to that, but I'm sure in his world, "nothing bad" ever happens because he has that adolescent view of immortality and invulnerability to life's realities.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Concerned parent, post: 702798, member: 21045"] Right, there is no one "magic" response, and every child is very different. I appreciate your response. We looked at wilderness therapy programs a couple of years ago, when he was also having a hard time, but very expensive, and some of the places sounded more like prison than truly therapeutic environments. Then for a couple of years, he seemed to be much happier with himself, on track, liked school, no major meltdowns. This year, though has been really rough, and we talked with him in clear terms that if he has another "meltdown" in which he is destroying property, we will call the police. We believe (and we may be wrong, we just do the best we can) that he does have other skills for dealing with intense emotions, but is, at some level, choosing this kind of response as a way to keep us paralyzed. No way to live. We also repeated how horrified, angry and scared we were that he used the cars, and the potential consequences. And the same mantra, we know that he has taken the car again, we call 911 immediately. He didn't have much to say to that, but I'm sure in his world, "nothing bad" ever happens because he has that adolescent view of immortality and invulnerability to life's realities. [/QUOTE]
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