Hey all, I've been reading this forum for days now, thanks to all who have shared your experiences. My son is 17 and only came to live with me (Dad) 3 years ago after his Mother suddenly passed away. Things were tough at first, helping him deal with the loss of his Mom was and is difficult for him. This last year and a half have been especially hard, as he has become increasingly distant, and his grades are plummeting. I've discovered that he's using pot and I suspect that he's also using pills. Can't confirm the pills though. He's unwilling to abide by house rules (which of course prohibit underage drug and alcohol use) and tonight he walked out the door. Earlier in the day we had a dust up that included him being incredibly disrespectful to me my wife and his younger siblings, and I quickly explained that people that choose to live in our home must abide by the rules. Those that didn't want to live by the rules should find other accommodations. Guess he didn't want to live by the rules, and left. I love him so much, and only want him to be happy and healthy, but at what expense? I'm at a complete loss here and feel out of my depth and have no idea how to handle this. I want to wring his neck, but that won't help anything.