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17 yr old son, defiant and using
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 637631" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Hi RC and welcome. I hope he comes back home on his own. Believe me, he will turn up. And then you will have to decide what is next for you and for him and for your home.</p><p></p><p>Start thinking about that right now. As he is a minor still, there is some time for you to try hard to take some action to get professional help for him. I would try everything I could find out about, because once he turns 18 it is almost impossible to intervene.</p><p></p><p>And even if you can get professional help right now, there is no guarantee that he will participate. We took (drug) my son to therapy, family therapy and individual therapy, and he would just slump down in the chair and not say one word. We did it over and over and over, to no avail. </p><p></p><p>You are right to decide what you will and will not allow in your home. I am so sorry that his Mom died, and I know that is very hard for you all. </p><p></p><p>But it is reality, and he will have to learn to function in the world without her, or not. You are there for him, and as you said, you love him very much.</p><p></p><p>I would seek professional therapy for yourself, for the family and for him. I would get advice from drug and alcohol counselors about what things you can try. I would go to support groups like AlAnon for you and your wife. </p><p></p><p>I hope his drug use is a short-term thing but you never know. My son is 25 and has been in jail 8 or 9 times, something which was unthinkable to me. He has been homeless 5 different times. There is a lot of help for homeless people. Educate yourself on that so you can be more balanced about it, if it comes to that. </p><p></p><p>This is hard stuff, but there is a pathway forward for you and your family, in dealing with a troubled teenager. </p><p></p><p>Warm hugs. We are here for you. We get it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 637631, member: 17542"] Hi RC and welcome. I hope he comes back home on his own. Believe me, he will turn up. And then you will have to decide what is next for you and for him and for your home. Start thinking about that right now. As he is a minor still, there is some time for you to try hard to take some action to get professional help for him. I would try everything I could find out about, because once he turns 18 it is almost impossible to intervene. And even if you can get professional help right now, there is no guarantee that he will participate. We took (drug) my son to therapy, family therapy and individual therapy, and he would just slump down in the chair and not say one word. We did it over and over and over, to no avail. You are right to decide what you will and will not allow in your home. I am so sorry that his Mom died, and I know that is very hard for you all. But it is reality, and he will have to learn to function in the world without her, or not. You are there for him, and as you said, you love him very much. I would seek professional therapy for yourself, for the family and for him. I would get advice from drug and alcohol counselors about what things you can try. I would go to support groups like AlAnon for you and your wife. I hope his drug use is a short-term thing but you never know. My son is 25 and has been in jail 8 or 9 times, something which was unthinkable to me. He has been homeless 5 different times. There is a lot of help for homeless people. Educate yourself on that so you can be more balanced about it, if it comes to that. This is hard stuff, but there is a pathway forward for you and your family, in dealing with a troubled teenager. Warm hugs. We are here for you. We get it. [/QUOTE]
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