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17 yr old son hanging out with members of a gang and doing drugs
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 675261" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I agree with somewhereoutthere. First, for as many psychiatrists you may encounter, you may receive different diagnoses. Second, he is very young. I believe, too young to diagnose with certainty. Especially if drugs are involved. Third, there are millions of young people who have been on this kind of collision course that decide to change. Fourth, anything you have your name on, reel it in. He should not be driving your car or any car, if it can be helped.</p><p></p><p>That said, I do not know the laws about emancipation in your state. In many states a young person 16 or over can legally emancipate, if they are self supporting and have the where with all to manage their own life.</p><p></p><p>In a sense your son has done this already. He refuses to accept authority. He will not obey your rules. The only way he will learn is to butt heads with the consequences of his actions.</p><p></p><p>If it were me, knowing what I know now, I would not secure housing for him in another area. If there is no trouble there, if he is hell bent to find trouble, he will leave there seeking it. Better that he be in an area where he knows the lay of the land, already. Like NYC where there is everything available to him both good and bad.</p><p></p><p>If he meets the criteria, legal emancipation may be the answer.</p><p></p><p>Keep posting. In some ways your child is in better shape than some of ours, because he works.</p><p></p><p>If he wants to affiliate with a gang, or use drugs, what can you do? As long he is underage you can deprive him of any means to move himself, all but the most basic of support. You can call the police at anything suspicious. You can deprive him of privacy, taking doors off, etc. He is already out of school so there is no leverage there. You can insist that none of his friends come near the house. He will circumvent every single one of these things, if he wants to get himself in deeper.</p><p></p><p>It seems like parental influence, the opportunity for it, has reached its limit. Why not think about calling it what it is, and let him be responsible for himself?</p><p></p><p>That said, I am sorry you find yourself in this situation, but glad you have found us.</p><p>.</p><p>Keep posting. It helps a lot. Really, it does.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 675261, member: 18958"] I agree with somewhereoutthere. First, for as many psychiatrists you may encounter, you may receive different diagnoses. Second, he is very young. I believe, too young to diagnose with certainty. Especially if drugs are involved. Third, there are millions of young people who have been on this kind of collision course that decide to change. Fourth, anything you have your name on, reel it in. He should not be driving your car or any car, if it can be helped. That said, I do not know the laws about emancipation in your state. In many states a young person 16 or over can legally emancipate, if they are self supporting and have the where with all to manage their own life. In a sense your son has done this already. He refuses to accept authority. He will not obey your rules. The only way he will learn is to butt heads with the consequences of his actions. If it were me, knowing what I know now, I would not secure housing for him in another area. If there is no trouble there, if he is hell bent to find trouble, he will leave there seeking it. Better that he be in an area where he knows the lay of the land, already. Like NYC where there is everything available to him both good and bad. If he meets the criteria, legal emancipation may be the answer. Keep posting. In some ways your child is in better shape than some of ours, because he works. If he wants to affiliate with a gang, or use drugs, what can you do? As long he is underage you can deprive him of any means to move himself, all but the most basic of support. You can call the police at anything suspicious. You can deprive him of privacy, taking doors off, etc. He is already out of school so there is no leverage there. You can insist that none of his friends come near the house. He will circumvent every single one of these things, if he wants to get himself in deeper. It seems like parental influence, the opportunity for it, has reached its limit. Why not think about calling it what it is, and let him be responsible for himself? That said, I am sorry you find yourself in this situation, but glad you have found us. . Keep posting. It helps a lot. Really, it does. COPA [/QUOTE]
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