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18 y/o daughter using pot and missing opportunities
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 630990" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Amelia, if she is an addict, she will have to hit her own bottom before she will stop. That's the whole deal. You have to be sick and tired enough of your own current life as it is to be motivated enough to change it. Same for us here. We keep trying the logical things with our adult kids to "help" them and nothing works, and our heads and hearts are sore from hitting them so hard against the brick wall of no change that finally....we are sick and tired enough of what we are doing to be ready to change and learn something new. We human beings are notoriously slow learners. </p><p></p><p>There is little/no clear evidence that your daughter is an addict, and you know what, you don't have to figure that out today. She will do what she will do until she doesnt or does. </p><p></p><p>The healthy thing is for you to focus on you and decide what you will or will not tolerate. Boundaries. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I have taken antidepressants as well, and I drink one or two drinks a week. I believe that mental illness requires treatment. I had situational depression that was real twice in my life and I took medications and got therapy and I moved out of that state and on from it.</p><p></p><p>Smoking pot---which is not regulated and therefore who knows what's in it-----is not the same thing as taking antidepressants in in my humble opinion. Drinking regularly to "relax" and "deal with anxiety" is not a prescribed method. </p><p></p><p>This is a very slippery slope. I believe pot is a gateway drug. I believe that for the potentially addicted brain (like my son's DNA and his dad's DNA), it is never okay.</p><p></p><p>My son is on antidepressants for his anxiety and depression but he refuses therapy. He is not following the medical directive for his "disorder". That's on him. </p><p></p><p>He can't drink and smoke pot and take pills and whatever else he does and justify it due to his "anxiety" and to "relax." I don't buy that. </p><p></p><p>Do what the doctor tells you to do, if you have a mental illness, and do it long enough to see results. </p><p></p><p>That is very different from self-medicating without supervision.</p><p></p><p>Sorry. As I said, I'm no prude by any measure, but having seen and learned what I have over the past four years, this is how I believe and feel now. I believe we will rue the day we legalize pot.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 630990, member: 17542"] Amelia, if she is an addict, she will have to hit her own bottom before she will stop. That's the whole deal. You have to be sick and tired enough of your own current life as it is to be motivated enough to change it. Same for us here. We keep trying the logical things with our adult kids to "help" them and nothing works, and our heads and hearts are sore from hitting them so hard against the brick wall of no change that finally....we are sick and tired enough of what we are doing to be ready to change and learn something new. We human beings are notoriously slow learners. There is little/no clear evidence that your daughter is an addict, and you know what, you don't have to figure that out today. She will do what she will do until she doesnt or does. The healthy thing is for you to focus on you and decide what you will or will not tolerate. Boundaries. I have taken antidepressants as well, and I drink one or two drinks a week. I believe that mental illness requires treatment. I had situational depression that was real twice in my life and I took medications and got therapy and I moved out of that state and on from it. Smoking pot---which is not regulated and therefore who knows what's in it-----is not the same thing as taking antidepressants in in my humble opinion. Drinking regularly to "relax" and "deal with anxiety" is not a prescribed method. This is a very slippery slope. I believe pot is a gateway drug. I believe that for the potentially addicted brain (like my son's DNA and his dad's DNA), it is never okay. My son is on antidepressants for his anxiety and depression but he refuses therapy. He is not following the medical directive for his "disorder". That's on him. He can't drink and smoke pot and take pills and whatever else he does and justify it due to his "anxiety" and to "relax." I don't buy that. Do what the doctor tells you to do, if you have a mental illness, and do it long enough to see results. That is very different from self-medicating without supervision. Sorry. As I said, I'm no prude by any measure, but having seen and learned what I have over the past four years, this is how I believe and feel now. I believe we will rue the day we legalize pot. [/QUOTE]
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