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18 y/o daughter using pot and missing opportunities
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<blockquote data-quote="amelia d" data-source="post: 632877" data-attributes="member: 18177"><p>Thanks for the input...the support really has helped. Scott, of course I'm being judgemental...I don't agree with my daughter smoking pot, blowing off school and basically ignoring the right choices because they are too "hard". Life is hard, and disappointing and complicated. It can also be happy, fulfilling and beautiful. I read some of these posts and it is heart-breaking to hear about life long struggles with mental illness and addiction and abuse. That is not my daughter's situation. We all have challenges in life and we all make choices on how we face those challenges. You chose to leave when your parents set a curfew. Some might see that as a battle you were looking for. 18 y/o girls are notoriously hardheaded and constantly pushing the limits. She is working and her plan is to move out. It has helped me to get the feedback on this site and realize that she can make her own choices (and mistakes) at this point in her life. My stand is that she can go if she can afford it, but it does not have to be a "forever" decision. I am open to supporting her returning to school if, and when, she is ready to take it seriously. My concern is the route she decides may cause her more harm than good, and recovering from it may prove impossible. It sounds like you rose to the challenges, but not everyone does. Some of our kids just choose to drift lower. We have put rules in place that she must follow while she is living here...but there is no doubt about my feelings when it comes to destructive behavior..I think it's important she knows that I don't approve.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="amelia d, post: 632877, member: 18177"] Thanks for the input...the support really has helped. Scott, of course I'm being judgemental...I don't agree with my daughter smoking pot, blowing off school and basically ignoring the right choices because they are too "hard". Life is hard, and disappointing and complicated. It can also be happy, fulfilling and beautiful. I read some of these posts and it is heart-breaking to hear about life long struggles with mental illness and addiction and abuse. That is not my daughter's situation. We all have challenges in life and we all make choices on how we face those challenges. You chose to leave when your parents set a curfew. Some might see that as a battle you were looking for. 18 y/o girls are notoriously hardheaded and constantly pushing the limits. She is working and her plan is to move out. It has helped me to get the feedback on this site and realize that she can make her own choices (and mistakes) at this point in her life. My stand is that she can go if she can afford it, but it does not have to be a "forever" decision. I am open to supporting her returning to school if, and when, she is ready to take it seriously. My concern is the route she decides may cause her more harm than good, and recovering from it may prove impossible. It sounds like you rose to the challenges, but not everyone does. Some of our kids just choose to drift lower. We have put rules in place that she must follow while she is living here...but there is no doubt about my feelings when it comes to destructive behavior..I think it's important she knows that I don't approve. [/QUOTE]
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