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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 635100" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>My son has a form of autism. We were also told he'd get disability and he did. Trust the professionals. "Bipolar" is something that really gets disability for people who have it. However, he will get much less if he lives at home,. At least my son did.</p><p></p><p>In our case, my son wanted to be out on his own and he can do it quite well with some supports. He has a case manager and a secure part-time job plus his disability. We didn't care how long he lived at home because he is a very calm kid, but he himself wanted to get his own place. It has been good for him to be independent.</p><p></p><p>Your son would be on SSDI.It would give him insurance as well as money to survive on.</p><p></p><p>If you don't get along with your son, think long and hard about how much you want to argue with him and enforce boundaries before deciding to let him come home. If he is dangerous or violent, and if you have other kids, think about them too. Pets? Well, I'm an animal lover so...I'd think about that as well. Maybe tell him the rules before he comes back home and see how he receives your rules. He may decide he would rather live in an apartment. His social security could cover the rent for a small studio or one bedroom place. If he can't get along with the people at his group home, will he be able to live in harmony with you and your husband? Usually our adult kids treat us worse and blame us for everything.</p><p></p><p>Why do you have a lawyer in this? Why would you contribute to your son's care? You don't have to. We don't have money available to take care of our son outside of at home, and nobody has ever told us we have to pay anything. We probably would if we could comfortably do it, but it would be voluntary. Now that your son is a legal adult, it's different than when he was a minor. You really don't need a lawyer for this. You need to talk to your local Dept. of Aging and Disabilities. I'd be leery of your lawyer...he is not the one who can help your son and he doesn't need to have proof of YOUR finances now that your son is eighteen. That makes no sense. </p><p></p><p>I think you might be able to apply for Disability online. I would get all of his medical records. You'll need them. Since he spent four years in a group home, he will likely get the benefits the first time he applies. </p><p></p><p>Good luck, whatever you decide to do. It certainly is not easy.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 635100, member: 1550"] My son has a form of autism. We were also told he'd get disability and he did. Trust the professionals. "Bipolar" is something that really gets disability for people who have it. However, he will get much less if he lives at home,. At least my son did. In our case, my son wanted to be out on his own and he can do it quite well with some supports. He has a case manager and a secure part-time job plus his disability. We didn't care how long he lived at home because he is a very calm kid, but he himself wanted to get his own place. It has been good for him to be independent. Your son would be on SSDI.It would give him insurance as well as money to survive on. If you don't get along with your son, think long and hard about how much you want to argue with him and enforce boundaries before deciding to let him come home. If he is dangerous or violent, and if you have other kids, think about them too. Pets? Well, I'm an animal lover so...I'd think about that as well. Maybe tell him the rules before he comes back home and see how he receives your rules. He may decide he would rather live in an apartment. His social security could cover the rent for a small studio or one bedroom place. If he can't get along with the people at his group home, will he be able to live in harmony with you and your husband? Usually our adult kids treat us worse and blame us for everything. Why do you have a lawyer in this? Why would you contribute to your son's care? You don't have to. We don't have money available to take care of our son outside of at home, and nobody has ever told us we have to pay anything. We probably would if we could comfortably do it, but it would be voluntary. Now that your son is a legal adult, it's different than when he was a minor. You really don't need a lawyer for this. You need to talk to your local Dept. of Aging and Disabilities. I'd be leery of your lawyer...he is not the one who can help your son and he doesn't need to have proof of YOUR finances now that your son is eighteen. That makes no sense. I think you might be able to apply for Disability online. I would get all of his medical records. You'll need them. Since he spent four years in a group home, he will likely get the benefits the first time he applies. Good luck, whatever you decide to do. It certainly is not easy. [/QUOTE]
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