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<blockquote data-quote="Sam3" data-source="post: 725085" data-attributes="member: 19290"><p>I agree with everyone about the need to set clear boundaries</p><p></p><p>Also with the comment above about Xanax. Xanax can also cause paradoxical raging. I hope the escalation of his behavior is relatively new.</p><p></p><p>If so, i would first try to approach it as a medical issue. Xanax needs to be eliminated with a slow taper. A supervised detox would be ideal (there are even doctors and nurses who supervise in a home setting).</p><p></p><p>And I would also acknowledge his anxiety. There are non-addictive medications for anxiety (gabapentin comes to mind— unless he is also doing opiates; I have read that handfuls of gaba can enhance opiate highs).</p><p></p><p>You can place demands on his productivity when he’s stable, and you can condition financial support and housing right now, on him seeking help.</p><p></p><p>In my opinion, there is little to lose from an understanding opening salvo, prompted by his recent episode. I would keep it short, accepting and matter of fact. No pleading. In fact, I would do it in writing. Drugs make for some skilled mind F{€\ers. We’ve all had those insane conversations filled with denial, blame, minimizing etc. </p><p></p><p>But his actions suggest he’s in the grips of substance abuse. It is a serious issue which ultimately you hope he conquers. So I think you can give him a crack at nipping it early. No pun intended.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sam3, post: 725085, member: 19290"] I agree with everyone about the need to set clear boundaries Also with the comment above about Xanax. Xanax can also cause paradoxical raging. I hope the escalation of his behavior is relatively new. If so, i would first try to approach it as a medical issue. Xanax needs to be eliminated with a slow taper. A supervised detox would be ideal (there are even doctors and nurses who supervise in a home setting). And I would also acknowledge his anxiety. There are non-addictive medications for anxiety (gabapentin comes to mind— unless he is also doing opiates; I have read that handfuls of gaba can enhance opiate highs). You can place demands on his productivity when he’s stable, and you can condition financial support and housing right now, on him seeking help. In my opinion, there is little to lose from an understanding opening salvo, prompted by his recent episode. I would keep it short, accepting and matter of fact. No pleading. In fact, I would do it in writing. Drugs make for some skilled mind F{€\ers. We’ve all had those insane conversations filled with denial, blame, minimizing etc. But his actions suggest he’s in the grips of substance abuse. It is a serious issue which ultimately you hope he conquers. So I think you can give him a crack at nipping it early. No pun intended. [/QUOTE]
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