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18 yr old son with depression refuses help
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<blockquote data-quote="dstc_99" data-source="post: 644168" data-attributes="member: 15473"><p>You can't make your son get help. You also can't protect him from himself 100% of the time. I learned this with my difficult child daughter who is close to his age. Not all that long ago unfortunately.</p><p> </p><p>Here is what you can do. You can decide what you will and will not live with in your home. You can inform your difficult child of the rules and then you have to enforce them. If they chose not to follow the rules then they have to move. YOU ARE NOT ABANDONING THEM! I completely understand that you feel that way because of your past but your son is a grown man not a 13-14 year old girl.</p><p> </p><p>I did these things and while it wasn't perfect it did teach difficult child that my word means something. It also taught her that her depression/anger/choking would not stop me from having personal boundaries. She found out how it felt to have mom and dad not provide for her every need. She stopped choking herself.</p><p> </p><p>I got therapy and strength from my spouse. I got to feel like me again. I stopped feeling like I had to fix all her problems for her exactly the way she wanted them fixed and when she wanted them fixed. I learned that she was using her mental issues to control me and her boyfriend at the time. I learned how not to get mad and run my mouth or get sympathetic and run my mouth in a manner that would commit me to anything. I learned how to say no and NOT feel guilty.</p><p> </p><p>You get the point.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dstc_99, post: 644168, member: 15473"] You can't make your son get help. You also can't protect him from himself 100% of the time. I learned this with my difficult child daughter who is close to his age. Not all that long ago unfortunately. Here is what you can do. You can decide what you will and will not live with in your home. You can inform your difficult child of the rules and then you have to enforce them. If they chose not to follow the rules then they have to move. YOU ARE NOT ABANDONING THEM! I completely understand that you feel that way because of your past but your son is a grown man not a 13-14 year old girl. I did these things and while it wasn't perfect it did teach difficult child that my word means something. It also taught her that her depression/anger/choking would not stop me from having personal boundaries. She found out how it felt to have mom and dad not provide for her every need. She stopped choking herself. I got therapy and strength from my spouse. I got to feel like me again. I stopped feeling like I had to fix all her problems for her exactly the way she wanted them fixed and when she wanted them fixed. I learned that she was using her mental issues to control me and her boyfriend at the time. I learned how not to get mad and run my mouth or get sympathetic and run my mouth in a manner that would commit me to anything. I learned how to say no and NOT feel guilty. You get the point. [/QUOTE]
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