Help! My 18 year old son wants to date a 14 year old and since we know this is wrong on just so many levels we forbid it. We even talked to the girl's mom for support, but the mom thought the idea was great. She saw nothing wrong with it and even supported the two in sneaking around so that they could see each other. We finally gave our son an ultimatum, and he called the girlfriend's mom and she she came and got him. He is now living in their home. We are lost - do we use tough love and give him nothing. We have not given him his car, cellphone or ipod all purchased by us. We did give him some of his nastier clothes but not the expensive aeropostale or american eagle. We don't want to be estranged from our son, but we really can't support his decisions. We want him to come home but only if he can follow the rules. Does tough love work?