Hi I am brand new to this board. I have a 19 year old son that has worked during the summer since he was 16. He went from work to football to baseball for 2 years. He graduated not top of his class but graduated and walked. I pushed for him to attend a county college in September. He did and claims he was passing all of his classes. In October he came to me and said I can't do it mom. I need to work I want to learn a trade. He has never been a school kid so i thought long and hard and decided that as long as he was learing something it was ok becuase college isn't for everyone. I explained to him that he was putting his "big boy" pants on and he would have to work every day etc. We managed to get him a job in the HVAC field with someone willing to teach him. He traveled 45 minutes each way for the job and liked it for the first 3 months. Yesterday he told me he wanted to talk to me and said he thinks he made a mistake and wants to go back to school. He has been smoking weed everyday for the past 4 months i think. I have told him it's not acceptable to do in my home so he has decided it is ok to do in the shed becuase it won't smell up the house! What the hell do these kids think. He has given his 2 weeks notice for the HHVAC job and no has no job. He will sleep all day and party all night if i let him. He is respectful in the fact that if i say be home by a certain time he is. He does work hard when he works his supervisors all love him. Is this just a phase with the pot? Does it end or is he chaniging him? I have never smoked so I have no idea. He was a athlete at one time but had a knee injury last year and it seems everything has changed since then. Any suggestions or guidance would be very much appreciated