I'm new here, but have been dealing with my difficult child and his issues for quite some time. He is on some prescribed medications for anxiety and depression, but sometimes I'm not really sure he needs them. In fact, I'm not really sure that every thing he does isn't a calculated, manipulated move. Sometimes he sleeps all day. He plays computer games much of the time--we don't have game systems in the house anymore. He has always been addicted to them. He is working a part time job, but doesn't show much enthusiasm for it. He says he's glad to be working so that he can buy xmas presents this year, but i suspect he's spent his entire first paycheck on ?? I knew this would happen, anticipated it would happen. I kicked him out once, packed up his stuff and changed the garage code to get in. He was back the next day, but I want him out. I REALLY want him out. I keep replaying how he grew up, should I have been stricter? I examine pictures of him when he was little looking for answers why he turned out this way. Have two good kids so things couldn't have been all that bad. I have been reading all your posts and understanding the anguish you're all going through. How can you love your kid to death?? It is terrible to feel ashamed of your kid.