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19 yr son who steals.
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<blockquote data-quote="pigless in VA" data-source="post: 719168" data-attributes="member: 11832"><p>Welcome, Suzy. </p><p></p><p>My son stole in excess of $4000 from me using my credit card. When I discovered the theft, the first thing I did was to change the account number, thereby keeping my son from accessing it. We then set up a repayment plan for him. He was working, so I required 75% of his paychecks until half the bill was repaid. I explained that if he chose to not repay me, that I would report his theft to the police. After he repaid half the bill, I was then taking only 50% of his paycheck. </p><p></p><p>The boy, to his credit, worked extra hard that year. He had repaid all of it within 9 months. I think he learned a lot by being responsible for righting the wrong he had done me.</p><p></p><p>He is now solely responsible for his phone bill. I do give him money for copays for doctor visits and I pay for his prescription refills. He has a meal plan at college and is responsible for the rest of his extras. He does not have a car (which is a whole separate stupid issue). </p><p></p><p>I believe that kids who are given everything appreciate nothing. I think one of the best lessons we can teach them is that we are not an unlimited supply of money. Deprivation can be a powerful motivator.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="pigless in VA, post: 719168, member: 11832"] Welcome, Suzy. My son stole in excess of $4000 from me using my credit card. When I discovered the theft, the first thing I did was to change the account number, thereby keeping my son from accessing it. We then set up a repayment plan for him. He was working, so I required 75% of his paychecks until half the bill was repaid. I explained that if he chose to not repay me, that I would report his theft to the police. After he repaid half the bill, I was then taking only 50% of his paycheck. The boy, to his credit, worked extra hard that year. He had repaid all of it within 9 months. I think he learned a lot by being responsible for righting the wrong he had done me. He is now solely responsible for his phone bill. I do give him money for copays for doctor visits and I pay for his prescription refills. He has a meal plan at college and is responsible for the rest of his extras. He does not have a car (which is a whole separate stupid issue). I believe that kids who are given everything appreciate nothing. I think one of the best lessons we can teach them is that we are not an unlimited supply of money. Deprivation can be a powerful motivator. [/QUOTE]
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