Yesterday was Evan's evaluation for kindergarden because regardless of my warnings, katie did NOT watch for kindergarden enrollment nor contact the school to find out when the evaluations were being done. husband took them to the evaluation. Katie emailed me the results, well....her version of the results. He flunked part of the vision test and they think he *might* be color blind. Maybe he is, maybe not, impossible to tell with a child who knows only 1 color which is yellow. She says they gave him an IEP for speech. Now the child really needs speech, he's nearly unable to be understood 90 percent of the time. But they don't give IEPs for speech, the child just goes to speech class, it's no big deal. Just like they don't give IEPs for reading issues, the child goes to a special reading teacher. So it could be they're going to give him one because the child knows nothing of what he needs to know to start kindergarden and katie doesn't want me to know that because I know his learning issues right now are as much due to her neglect to teach him anything as anything else. Or she's lying. With katie it's hard to tell. Today is his first day of kindergarden. It's taken weeks of Kayla working with him to get him excited enough to even consider getting on the bus. Evan has not ever been out of his parents presence since he was born except the few times husband or I watched him here. He's only been alone without his parents once with me watching him. I'm waiting on a phone call from the school. Evan doesn't know his alphabet song, doesn't know letters other than the ones that start his and his sibs names (E K and A), can't count, doesn't know his colors or shapes. He's never been diciplined to sit still and listen, or even to just sit still. He doesn't know how to follow rules or socialize with other children (other than his sibs). He can't be understood verbally to express his needs or anything else. I've been around him a year now and while I'm usually pretty good at that, I still can't understand the bulk of what he says most of the time. He can be so sweet, but on the other hand he can be viciously violent. (thank you dear ol dad) Time out will not work because no one as ever enforced it with him. I feel so sorry for the lil guy. It's not fair to him. This is going to be traumatic to some extent when it should be a happy memory. Due to his parent's neglect he's going to be so lost among his peers. I pity his teacher. He is my grandson and I love him, but really the teacher is going to have to have the utter patience of a saint, no joke. And unlike family, her methods of discipline are limited. He requires constant supervision and in my opinion one on one teaching to catch up to the other kids. He doesn't even have rudimentary skills. The child still can't dress himself. He can't drink out of a glass without pouring it everywhere.....and he's eating habits, well think of a toddler starting to feed themselves. Food goes everywhere. Do I think Evan is MRDD? Technically yes, he is and somewhat severely in certain areas. BUT he can learn, he's eager to learn given the right atmosphere / approach, tons of patience, repetition, if you can get him to sit still long enough which is not easy since he's literally been allowed to roam wild for 5 yrs. At this point though, I think it's from sheer neglect and being treated like an infant in nearly all areas of his life. He has never been taught anything. Know what I mean?? So while at this point he's technically mentally retarded and developmentally delayed, it's not in the true meaning. Does he need an IEP? Oh heck yeah. It's katie's trying to pass it off as the speech thing that irritates me. Heaven forbid she admit the child has been so utterly neglected it's just not funny. In many ways Evan functions at a lower level than grandson Brandon who is 2 yrs old. Brandon can dress himself, he knows his parents names, he knows more colors than Evan ect. Placing Evan in a kindergarden class is equal to sending Brandon to kindergarden and expecting him to function independently. Scary thought. So while he *might* have been excited to get on that bus this morning.......... He has to make it through an entire day in a strange place that actually has rules, interact with other children, surrounded by strangers who can't understand what he says, and he knows nothing about what is going on. I'm waiting on the phone call that Evan is out of control and please come get him as they can't reach his parents. (they never can reach katie or M they don't answer the phone) IF today goes somewhat ok..........Getting Evan back onto that bus might be WWIII tomorrow morning. And the school? They're going to take it that there is a "problem" with the child (like with Alex, and especially due to Alex) and not see the problem is truly with the parents. Keeps me at a low boil, I swear. I have my fingers crossed he has a smart teacher who keeps her eyes/ears open and makes some major calls to cps. Because if you pay close attention to Evan, that spark of wanting to learn is almost desperation to learn.