Background: I have been on this board sporadically whenever difficult child (age 20, bipolar) would really be getting to me. It turned out to be a blessing that she left a year and a half ago to move five hours away with boyfriend. At first we were upset, but now we are so glad that he supports her and puts up with her, so we can have some peace in our lives. She was a very difficult teen and despite medication and top-notch psychiatric help and care, when a mood swing hit, she could be very violent. We had to hide all knives. Sometime she would chase me through the house and I would be terrified. Well, difficult child just called to tell me she wants to move back here (5 hrs away)and live in our house and work and wait for boyfriend to come down later once their apartment lease has been paid off in the fall-and I told her I did not think that was a good idea, that she should stay there and work and wait for boyfriend. I told her I feared it would send her into a mood swing being away from him -it always has, after about three days -and it hasn't been that long that I remember being chased, threatened, and terrified. We were afraid she might burn down our house or something. I do not want all that to start happening again. And if she is away from him, I fear it will. I told her I did not think she would be happy here and that I did not want to go back to that way of living. She did not like this and hung up on me. Thank goodness my husband is in total agreement with me on this. I guess I just wanted someone to listen who would understand. I never thought I would turn away my own child, but this is something we have to do for our sanity-and for hers, as well. Thank you all for being there.