Our daughter is 20 years old, has had Tourette Syndrome and learning disabilities her whole life - but in the last 1 1/2 years has been making our life hell with incredibly stupid decisions. She's had a string of loser boyfriends - one was a controlling jerk who got her to move out with him to his mom's house. There she learned how to drink, do drugs, and have sex. They also broke into our house and stole from us. Her and him together seemed like a perfect storm of a borderline personality (her) and a narcissistic personality disorder (him). Anyhow, she's back living in our house (big mistake on our part). She still communicates with controlling loser, but also hangs out with pants-worn-below-the-buttocks druggie loser. She quit community college (she had finished one year) - she announced on the day classes were to start that "I'm not going" - because controlling loser was afraid she was going to talk to other guys there. She now has a part time job making minimum wage. I caught her smoking marijuana in her bedroom last week, and she also posts on MySpace and Facebook about getting high and taking amphetamines - so there's no need to drug test her. She refuses to go to drug counseling, says she doesn't have a problem. We also have a 17 year old son who lives at home, so this chaos isn't just affecting my wife and I. I want to give her 30 days notice to leave. I grew up with an alcoholic, abusive father - so I know what detachment is all about. Wife has never experienced anything like this, and is still trying to hold on for dear life. My son is leaving for college at the end of August - I want to go with him. Seriously, I can't take this for much longer.