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20 year old son on the streets, heartbroken mom
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<blockquote data-quote="JMom" data-source="post: 692948" data-attributes="member: 19892"><p>Good Morning Night Owl,</p><p></p><p>Welcome to the forum, a soft place to land. I debated whether or not to post, because your son is not an addict. My son is 21 and homeless. You can find my post about buying him a tent. Something that stood out in your post was the physical harm he did to the younger children. If he controls his behavior outside your home, that might be the safest environment for you, your children and him.</p><p></p><p>It's hard to accept the consequences for his behavior, for you and him, however I truly believe natural consequences allow our children to grow. I was crushed when I realized my son chose to be homeless over being sober and having a nice home. I have learned that he functions better with his homeless community, our home is more peaceful and my younger children are getting the opportunity to grow up in a safe home.</p><p></p><p>I had to show my daughter's that his behavior wasn't acceptable just because he said "I'm sorry" because his apology didn't erase the fear and anxiety they were exposed to at the time of his rage. I grew up in a similar home and didn't exhale until I was 24.</p><p></p><p>I am glad you have taken steps to keep the little ones safe. It sounds like you have done a great job of fostering a positive relationship with all of your children. You have a lot of special gifts to be able to care for them all and their special needs. Take care of YOU in the process.</p><p></p><p>Love, JMOM</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JMom, post: 692948, member: 19892"] Good Morning Night Owl, Welcome to the forum, a soft place to land. I debated whether or not to post, because your son is not an addict. My son is 21 and homeless. You can find my post about buying him a tent. Something that stood out in your post was the physical harm he did to the younger children. If he controls his behavior outside your home, that might be the safest environment for you, your children and him. It's hard to accept the consequences for his behavior, for you and him, however I truly believe natural consequences allow our children to grow. I was crushed when I realized my son chose to be homeless over being sober and having a nice home. I have learned that he functions better with his homeless community, our home is more peaceful and my younger children are getting the opportunity to grow up in a safe home. I had to show my daughter's that his behavior wasn't acceptable just because he said "I'm sorry" because his apology didn't erase the fear and anxiety they were exposed to at the time of his rage. I grew up in a similar home and didn't exhale until I was 24. I am glad you have taken steps to keep the little ones safe. It sounds like you have done a great job of fostering a positive relationship with all of your children. You have a lot of special gifts to be able to care for them all and their special needs. Take care of YOU in the process. Love, JMOM [/QUOTE]
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