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20 yr old son returned home. Just when I thought things were improving
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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 658449" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>If it is depression (i.e. you are certain he isn't just being difficult by choice), keep the rules few and simple, and limit them to what directly affects you. Things like:</p><p>1) must communicate respectfully</p><p>2) no helping himself to food or facilities like laundry - he must communicate</p><p>3) must get off the property at least once per day... at first, that might just be a walk around the block, but that counts; but this also must be communicated.</p><p> </p><p>If he wants to take his food to his room and eat there, he can (we had to do that for our kid, and it WAS necessary) but has to bring dishes back. He doesn't have to see you any more than to communicate the necessary, respectfully.</p><p> </p><p>You might get farther with carrots than with sticks - if he goes to therapy and doctors appointments <em>and participates willingly</em>, would you give him a small amount of something he wants? (a few dollars, some computer time, something?)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 658449, member: 11791"] If it is depression (i.e. you are certain he isn't just being difficult by choice), keep the rules few and simple, and limit them to what directly affects you. Things like: 1) must communicate respectfully 2) no helping himself to food or facilities like laundry - he must communicate 3) must get off the property at least once per day... at first, that might just be a walk around the block, but that counts; but this also must be communicated. If he wants to take his food to his room and eat there, he can (we had to do that for our kid, and it WAS necessary) but has to bring dishes back. He doesn't have to see you any more than to communicate the necessary, respectfully. You might get farther with carrots than with sticks - if he goes to therapy and doctors appointments [I]and participates willingly[/I], would you give him a small amount of something he wants? (a few dollars, some computer time, something?) [/QUOTE]
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