Hello, I wish I had thought about signing up for or found a parenting forum long before this. The teenage years was the most difficult time of my life raising both of my children. I find it ironic that they both left at the same age, 16. Both times was because they were being grounded. So I'm in a space where I question everything I do and think. Usually one child is difficult and the other is successful but both of mine are destined to live a hard life. My daughter is 22 years old and has a one year old daughter that she planned on having knowing she has nothing to take care of herself let alone a child. Now she's bouncing from shelter to shelter with her baby. She's not living with me because when she decided to get pregnant when she was living in Atlanta with her father instead of focusing on her college courses. I was living with my girlfriend and her family to get my finances in order while going through a separation/divorce. That took two years. So I had no place of my own when she decided to come to NY after the baby was born. She knew this yet she was angry with me for not fixing things for her and the baby. Now I have my own one bedroom apartment still struggling financially but I am wanting to taking her in to help her get her life together and to secure my grandaughter's safety. However, I am afraid that she wouldn't stick to the plan and we'll end up fighting because I don't want her friends in my apartment, she would have to come in at decent time, and the smoking of weed would not be tolerated in my home. My daughter is very manipulative and knows all the right words to say to get me to break, I've coddled her for years, hense my financial situation is in a disarray (all resources have been exhausted) paying for extracurricular activities and shopping sprees, travel expenses for the family to and from Atlanta for her HS graduation, private residence while she attended GSU because she didn't get along with her roommates on the school dorms... It's been a battle since age 16 and I just don't want to fight with her anymore. Please advise. Thanks, Tired of the day-to-day drama of the last 8 years.