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22 year old daughter with-1year old child is homeless.
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 718610" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Something I've learned along the way is to refrain from action in the moment. Give yourself a pause. When we are in a pattern of guilt and are confronted with manipulation, our first reaction is often to enable. If we wait, our brains calm down and we can <em>respond instead of reacting.</em> For example, if your daughter calls, tell her you will call her back. Don't allow yourself to be put in the position of having to justify your choices or defend your position. The truth is you've done enough. You've done more than enough. But our kids will play on our sense of parental guilt, it's a pattern that we will have to break in order for any change to happen.</p><p></p><p></p><p> </p><p>I believe that is appropriate. </p><p></p><p>Take care of yourself Precious. Love, accept and honor yourself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 718610, member: 13542"] Something I've learned along the way is to refrain from action in the moment. Give yourself a pause. When we are in a pattern of guilt and are confronted with manipulation, our first reaction is often to enable. If we wait, our brains calm down and we can [I]respond instead of reacting.[/I] For example, if your daughter calls, tell her you will call her back. Don't allow yourself to be put in the position of having to justify your choices or defend your position. The truth is you've done enough. You've done more than enough. But our kids will play on our sense of parental guilt, it's a pattern that we will have to break in order for any change to happen. I believe that is appropriate. Take care of yourself Precious. Love, accept and honor yourself. [/QUOTE]
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