Hi, I'm new to this forum. We have a 22 year old son, who has been to a mental hospital once already for hitting me and doing it again the next day. He most likely has bipolar. The diagnosis when released from the hospital was mood disorder, which I've been told by a therapist means depression or bipolar. He displays many symptoms of bipolar, manice episodes where he says dilusional things, grandiose attitudes and thoughts, says nasty things to me and my wife, etc. He wont get a job because its below him. He says he just wants to stay home and "develop" himself. All he does is read stuff on the internet, eat "superfoods", and mess up the kitchen. He makes everyone in our house (me, wife, daughter, other son miserable). We never feel secure with him around. It's like walking on eggshells living there, trying not to **** him off, which happens at the drop of a hat. He refuses therapy, refuses to take medication, and vehemently denies he has a problem. He blames everything on other people, never himself. We are in the process of getting counseling for me and my wife in an attempt to get clear direction on what to do. We have kicked him out several times due to his nasty behavior and disrepect for everyone in the house but he just keeps coming back. He has nowhere to go, as he has most likely alienated his friends by this time. He also has punched about 6 holes in our walls. He does this when he gets mad about a conversation he has with either myself or my wife and he gets frustrated and angry. We have also contacted NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) and are getting help from them. They told us to apply for state health insurance for him and social security disability assistance for him first. But he has to sign those forms, and he will probably refuse because he'd have to admit he has a disability from a mental disorder. But the purpose of this would be to get him independent enough where he could get assisted housing and expenses. Dont know what to do at this point. Need to get counseling for us first to be confident on the actions we take regarding him. Last resort is to kick him out again and get restraining order so he wont come back. Sort of all over the map on this post, sorry, but this whole thing with him tends to make us this way. Any suggestions on what to do and on what we are already doing would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.