I have a 22 yr old son who lives with me and my husband and younger sibling at home. Today, for at least the 6th time, I came home to a mess in my house. Damaged drywall, broken wall fixtures, door ripped off hinge, etc. It was heartbreaking. He was diagnosed with depression as a 16 yr old and ADHD around 19. We take him to a psychiatrist for medications and he drives himself to counseling every week. He has not successfully completed a semester of college in a year, having dropped his classes one by one, even though we encouraged him to only take one or two this last semester. He dropped them both. He is not working, except one or two days a month to fill in at an office where he used to work. He thinks most jobs are beneath him. He has zero friends and spends his days in his room nearly 24/7. His counselor told him years ago that exercise is helpful to boost moods and he runs on the treadmill for probably 5 miles every day, lifts weights, etc. He is tall and lean but not bulky in any way much to his dismay. He's obsessed with eating organic and makes nutribullet concoctions. If he can't eat healthy, he won't eat or will complain about drive thru food which he will eat if I bring it home (I work full time and I'm too tired to cook most days) but will puke up later because his "body can't handle it." He was disappointed today because he had concert tickets for tonight but he couldn't find anyone to go with so that is probably what started this meltdown today. I offered for him to take him and his sibling but that of course wouldn't do because what would the other people at the concert think?? He is very concerned about having to interact (talk) with other people. He's good looking and knows how to smile and charm people and behave appropriately when in public. He falls apart behind closed doors though. Most days he's perfectly stable (in his room, limited interactions with us) but he can't handle even the smallest stressors, which would include job and school. He's very nice and respectful of us outside of the outbursts but my husband has had enough and wants him out. I agree it is affecting our younger child. We haven't let anyone in our family or friends know this is going on because frankly I'm ashamed that I can't help him stop this behavior. I'm afraid I'm going to lose my son and my marriage. I don't know what do for him. I hate that our local mental health center has such bag stigma and that mental health issues are taboo. I desperately need a plan.