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22 yr old son causes destruction with outbursts
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<blockquote data-quote="Calamity Jane" data-source="post: 692477" data-attributes="member: 13882"><p>Excellent news about the neuropsychologist. Hope you get an appointment as soon as possible.</p><p></p><p>My son has taken up boxing and kung fu lately, and just the other day he said he loves it because he "likes the feeling of getting hit and hitting other people." I don't even know what to make of that statement myself. </p><p></p><p>He has been working since he was 12, but he lost some good opportunities because he got into drugs at age 15. Borderline (BPD) is often comorbid with substance abuse too, unfortunately. He claims he is drug free, and he acts like a health nut, but his personality is his personality and I don't think he's going to change very much. He attends school, gets good grades initially, then he finds some reason to hate his professors and his fellow students and his grades take a nose dive. He's handsome, well dressed and well spoken so he makes a nice initial impression on job interviews, but again, once he's there for a while, he finds a way to make everyone dislike him, and then he wants to quit his job. Same thing with roommates. He attaches himself to people who have unusual interests (lighting design, extreme sports, technological start ups) and becomes immersed in their interests and an apprentice to these people. He gets very involved in their interests, almost completely absorbed. It's like he has no sense of self. Then, when things go south as they always do with his interpersonal engagements with these people, he loses the friendship and the interest in that particular activity. This has been going on for years. He is averse to therapy, and he's an adult, so there's not much we can do, except encourage him to seek help. I don't think he's ever going to be anywhere near happy in his life if he doesn't desire and seek professional help.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Calamity Jane, post: 692477, member: 13882"] Excellent news about the neuropsychologist. Hope you get an appointment as soon as possible. My son has taken up boxing and kung fu lately, and just the other day he said he loves it because he "likes the feeling of getting hit and hitting other people." I don't even know what to make of that statement myself. He has been working since he was 12, but he lost some good opportunities because he got into drugs at age 15. Borderline (BPD) is often comorbid with substance abuse too, unfortunately. He claims he is drug free, and he acts like a health nut, but his personality is his personality and I don't think he's going to change very much. He attends school, gets good grades initially, then he finds some reason to hate his professors and his fellow students and his grades take a nose dive. He's handsome, well dressed and well spoken so he makes a nice initial impression on job interviews, but again, once he's there for a while, he finds a way to make everyone dislike him, and then he wants to quit his job. Same thing with roommates. He attaches himself to people who have unusual interests (lighting design, extreme sports, technological start ups) and becomes immersed in their interests and an apprentice to these people. He gets very involved in their interests, almost completely absorbed. It's like he has no sense of self. Then, when things go south as they always do with his interpersonal engagements with these people, he loses the friendship and the interest in that particular activity. This has been going on for years. He is averse to therapy, and he's an adult, so there's not much we can do, except encourage him to seek help. I don't think he's ever going to be anywhere near happy in his life if he doesn't desire and seek professional help. [/QUOTE]
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