WearybutHopeful
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Hi Forum, first time poster here
I'm not a parent, but I just can't watch my parents deal with my 23 year old brother anymore. He gets mad at my parents saying he had an abusive childhood almost every day. He goes on rants for at least half an hour, spilling out all the wrongdoings he thinks has happened in his life, stuff that we've heard countless times. When we tell him to please leave the room and stop yelling, he gets angry and punches something, usually the wall. There are holes everywhere in our home that we've covered up with pictures or posters. Frankly we're running out of pictures to use. Some mornings he would wake up already mad at my parents about something that happened 10 years ago, even though no one did anything to irk him that morning. My parents are rarely around during the day because they both work so he doesn't interact much with them anyway, yet still gets unbelievably angry at them. My mom does her best to make sure he is fed, making dinner for us every night. Still, he doesn't appreciate that my parents still let him live here after all the damage he's done. He went to the hospital about 7 months ago for psychosis. He claimed that 5 years ago someone gave him a bag containing 3 million dollars for him to just have because of his "abusive childhood". He calls this person an "Earth angel." Then he said my dad prevented him from accessing that money, and that the money is now in the hands of some people that we went to elementary school with, people that my brother hasn't seen for 8 years. So even though he's been home now for 6 months the hospital still has responsibility for his behavior, and he has to go to regular meetings and appointments to receive injections to try to stop the psychosis from returning. The medicine hasn't shown signs of working so far so he still tells us all these stories. He currently works full time earning about $1600 a month, but he knows no financial responsibility so he spends most of that money. He also has a car, so if my parents do kick him out he won't be sleeping on the streets. My dad has no problems kicking him out, but my mom doesn't want to do it just yet. She always says he's "not normal" and that she's afraid if she kicks him out he won't be able to take care of himself. I said he'll just have to learn. My dad also says he'll probably have run ins with the law and be sent back home. I told him they don't have to let him back in. My dad has kicked him out once before for punching a huge hole in the wall, but he kept coming back to use our hose to brush his teeth and wash his face. My parents let him back in after a few days. I couldn't believe it. He's making all of our lives a living nightmare. We never know when he'll go off on another rant or start breaking things in the house. I hate being around him. So does my sister. I'll be moving out in about a month but I'm afraid without my pressure, my parents will never kick him out. I get mad at my mom sometimes for not even considering the option. My brother will be 24 in a couple months. I just don't know what to do anymore, or how to give my mom the strength she needs to take action.
I'm not a parent, but I just can't watch my parents deal with my 23 year old brother anymore. He gets mad at my parents saying he had an abusive childhood almost every day. He goes on rants for at least half an hour, spilling out all the wrongdoings he thinks has happened in his life, stuff that we've heard countless times. When we tell him to please leave the room and stop yelling, he gets angry and punches something, usually the wall. There are holes everywhere in our home that we've covered up with pictures or posters. Frankly we're running out of pictures to use. Some mornings he would wake up already mad at my parents about something that happened 10 years ago, even though no one did anything to irk him that morning. My parents are rarely around during the day because they both work so he doesn't interact much with them anyway, yet still gets unbelievably angry at them. My mom does her best to make sure he is fed, making dinner for us every night. Still, he doesn't appreciate that my parents still let him live here after all the damage he's done. He went to the hospital about 7 months ago for psychosis. He claimed that 5 years ago someone gave him a bag containing 3 million dollars for him to just have because of his "abusive childhood". He calls this person an "Earth angel." Then he said my dad prevented him from accessing that money, and that the money is now in the hands of some people that we went to elementary school with, people that my brother hasn't seen for 8 years. So even though he's been home now for 6 months the hospital still has responsibility for his behavior, and he has to go to regular meetings and appointments to receive injections to try to stop the psychosis from returning. The medicine hasn't shown signs of working so far so he still tells us all these stories. He currently works full time earning about $1600 a month, but he knows no financial responsibility so he spends most of that money. He also has a car, so if my parents do kick him out he won't be sleeping on the streets. My dad has no problems kicking him out, but my mom doesn't want to do it just yet. She always says he's "not normal" and that she's afraid if she kicks him out he won't be able to take care of himself. I said he'll just have to learn. My dad also says he'll probably have run ins with the law and be sent back home. I told him they don't have to let him back in. My dad has kicked him out once before for punching a huge hole in the wall, but he kept coming back to use our hose to brush his teeth and wash his face. My parents let him back in after a few days. I couldn't believe it. He's making all of our lives a living nightmare. We never know when he'll go off on another rant or start breaking things in the house. I hate being around him. So does my sister. I'll be moving out in about a month but I'm afraid without my pressure, my parents will never kick him out. I get mad at my mom sometimes for not even considering the option. My brother will be 24 in a couple months. I just don't know what to do anymore, or how to give my mom the strength she needs to take action.