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23 year old son - I kicked him out when he was 18
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 693911" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Sea66, we're glad you're here. You're at the right place! You're not alone! We have been or are right where you are today. </p><p></p><p>Stepping back from people you love--- especially when they are clutching and crying and begging and threatening--- is the hardest thing you will ever do in your life. It took me years to get sick and tired enough to stop. I would take one step and then two more back toward him. Over time, I finally saw that nothing changed if nothing changed. And I had to be the one to change. </p><p></p><p>Today, my Difficult Child is two years into a steady path of progress. He was in jail 8 or 9 times, homeless multiple times, arrested many times, drunk and high, stole from people, was in multiple rehabs. It was the worst thing I have ever been through and I could have never in a million years thought I would have been in that place for so many years trying to figure out what to do next.</p><p></p><p>Finally I learned and got strong enough to see that I had to: Just stop. Completely stop. </p><p></p><p>And for a while it got worse with him. But then things started to change, and I believe one reason is that I got out of the way. Finally.</p><p></p><p>We're here for you. Every situation is different. You will get lots of support, ideas, advice and encouragement here. Take what you like, and leave the rest. We understand. We really do.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 693911, member: 17542"] Sea66, we're glad you're here. You're at the right place! You're not alone! We have been or are right where you are today. Stepping back from people you love--- especially when they are clutching and crying and begging and threatening--- is the hardest thing you will ever do in your life. It took me years to get sick and tired enough to stop. I would take one step and then two more back toward him. Over time, I finally saw that nothing changed if nothing changed. And I had to be the one to change. Today, my Difficult Child is two years into a steady path of progress. He was in jail 8 or 9 times, homeless multiple times, arrested many times, drunk and high, stole from people, was in multiple rehabs. It was the worst thing I have ever been through and I could have never in a million years thought I would have been in that place for so many years trying to figure out what to do next. Finally I learned and got strong enough to see that I had to: Just stop. Completely stop. And for a while it got worse with him. But then things started to change, and I believe one reason is that I got out of the way. Finally. We're here for you. Every situation is different. You will get lots of support, ideas, advice and encouragement here. Take what you like, and leave the rest. We understand. We really do. [/QUOTE]
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