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23 year old son returning to college--very anxious
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<blockquote data-quote="so ready to live" data-source="post: 697486" data-attributes="member: 20054"><p>Hi Aging.</p><p></p><p>..and that's the beauty of it, if there can be beauty. You are learning with the remembering. When you are in it so deeply, you can't see or simply don't. I didn't have one once of energy left to get off the merry-go-round, let alone reflect on it.</p><p></p><p>Thank you Echo, you are so right. They just don't "grab that help". It seems logical to us but that's because our side of the line looks much different for so many reasons. The big reason is that it's our side of the line. Not theirs. It's that oneness with our children, although now adults, that's hard to divide. I'm not him, he's not me...but shouldn't everyone see my way as being better??? My son is 29, everyday I struggle multiple times not to go into full-blown anxiety. But, having removed ourselves, letting him handle it, he's NOT worse. I need to remember that. He's the same, with or without our $, support. The assistance we gave only lessened my anxiety for a moment, now I really get that it's his life and I so need to work on me. We listened to this over and over at al-anon but It took some time for me to see it. A heartfelt thank you to all of you today for sharing your hard-earned wisdom. I'm learning. Prayers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="so ready to live, post: 697486, member: 20054"] Hi Aging. ..and that's the beauty of it, if there can be beauty. You are learning with the remembering. When you are in it so deeply, you can't see or simply don't. I didn't have one once of energy left to get off the merry-go-round, let alone reflect on it. Thank you Echo, you are so right. They just don't "grab that help". It seems logical to us but that's because our side of the line looks much different for so many reasons. The big reason is that it's our side of the line. Not theirs. It's that oneness with our children, although now adults, that's hard to divide. I'm not him, he's not me...but shouldn't everyone see my way as being better??? My son is 29, everyday I struggle multiple times not to go into full-blown anxiety. But, having removed ourselves, letting him handle it, he's NOT worse. I need to remember that. He's the same, with or without our $, support. The assistance we gave only lessened my anxiety for a moment, now I really get that it's his life and I so need to work on me. We listened to this over and over at al-anon but It took some time for me to see it. A heartfelt thank you to all of you today for sharing your hard-earned wisdom. I'm learning. Prayers. [/QUOTE]
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