24 hour Survallince Camera To Prove Somethings Wrong

[Confused]

I was just trying to get him up and dressed for school. He is so hard to do both. His clothes were picked, he changed his mind and picked a hard button type that's for home. The teacher said don't send him in that because he has trouble with the button. He grabbed a plastic knife and threatened to cut if off and I asked him nicely to give me it. He acted as if ( I thought ) he put it down and he swiped me with it! Im so done with his DR.s not believing me. Why in the helk (trying not to say a bad word) would I make this up? I don't want my child to be violent and so uncaring. Private catholic school to teach him morals about GOd over $4,000 dollars each child a year! (grandfather and aunt pays for that not me) Not including all the extras! My grandfather wants to pull him out because he says he's unhappy there,( he thinks) but what he doesn't understand is that I WILL have the same trouble at a public that I do a private. He just does not act up at school..not enough to get the teachers to write the DR...period. So he is biting himself again and his well check up is today. Im wandering what they will say, will they roll their eyes at me again? His anger is like a switch again, but turning him off is the task. He also keeps turning the refrigerator dial down/off he does this on purpose and does not care, he does this out of anger, he knows it will ruin the food. He purposely pours water,milk,food on the floor when hes mad or we don't do as he is or fast enough. He kicks and hits us again... I tell him "I love you" everyday. Well he 99% of the time refuses to say it back. I explained what love is again... he still wont say it. He always has to have his threats and temper. When he is actually in a good mood I want to freeze time and keep it that way.

So guess what? I'm investing in a 24 hour surveillance camera set up in the Kitchen,yard,living room. And I will record him for at least a month so I have enough proof that's its not just a bad week or me or whatever. And than I will demand his DR to see it ( I will not leave his office until he does) and start walking in to these Neuro places and not leave until they see it too! Im so scared, even a friend of mine who had never ben around him said that he is going to beet me up when he is a teenager and I didn't even tell him everything! Not even half! This man has anxiety and he said he believes this is one of my sons issues, well ya, but no one will help me! I have that book Explosive Child, now tomorrow I will buy the other one (again-I have no idea what happened to it) "What your explosive child is trying to tell you". Thanks for listening, again... I hope this works and I will respond to the others here, just give me a few hours to get some caffeine!!!! I need my relaxing drink of soda!!!

 

[Ktllc]

I think you have a plan. But keep in mind: you can switch to a different doctor. You can request a referral to a specialist. Don't ask, demand. If they roll their eyes, tell firmly and politely that you will not take no for an answer. You are the mother: you DO have a clue.
Either way, video taping will give a base line to ANY doctor, so go with it.
Hang in there. Also try to keep notes for future reference. It will make it easier to remember and look organized.

 

[Confused]

Ktllc,
Thanks. I'm sure it sounds overboard, but I just don't know what else to do. He really does not sleep well either, getting him up this morning took from 5:20am until 6:50am! Just to get up! So, sleep is definitely an issue.I am changing his diet again, getting even more strict and will slowly re-introduce foods. He does eat very healthy including veggies, but will add more fiber, etc again.[FONT=&quot]The Gluten-free and Casein-free (gluten-free, casein-free) Diet for one..[/FONT] [h=3][/h] Also, as much as I been fighting a different Dr idea, I'm going to at least look at around and talk to other clinics. I have over 30 pages of tantrums , but quit writing them down. I will start again.
At the Dr.s what a joke! He was on his best behavior and even was not talking to them, which he usually does. So I mentioned his[FONT=&quot],Encopresis [/FONT]( constipation issues-main Dr said his diet of this part of the problem is fine but I was doing fine and it was a psychological issue fear of it hurting again to get it out ?) So his associate yesterday said its all in his diet and I need to keep that in control. Many kids his age have constipation. Yes, kids do, but in my sons case the diarrhea comes out sometimes he doesn't know, very ,very and very odd smelling gassy smell and toilet stopping. Its constant! My kids especially my son ( he loves his healthy food) eat well and splurge once in a while. The Dr. mentioned how quite he was this time and I said" yes, here, but at home he still aggressive like always" He just looked at me funny and said" he is just fine"! Well, that's it, my sons behavior is just fine! Even with his bruises from his bite marks on his arms! I don't know, Im going to talk to these places before I switch and try. I mean this morning he threatened to kick in my face because I didn't put his shoe on fast enough. Sometimes I react, this morning I was just blank and stared at him in shock I guess. Now, he told my dad that the teacher said " She doesn't believe us on anything" We are having a conference Friday, so believe me- I am going to ask her if this is true or if my son made it up. I hope he made it up! Thank you and I hope your little ones are doing better.

 

[buddy]

Each of the doctors I have for Q agreed to an interview before I ever brought Q into the clinics. I hope you can find someone that way. You may want to see if your insurance covers a developmental pediatrician or a clinic that specializes in medical care for kids with special needs, they tend to be more aware of those kinds of "they do well until at home or alone with mom" kinds of situations.

I think the cameras are a fine idea. I doubt you will get someone to watch all of it but if you can break it down to a few significant examples.... would be really helpful. I'd still personally want a new doctor because what does this say about the future. If you are not considered a full part of the team for your child, and they do not respect your concerns, why be with someone like that. you are the customer. They need to keep you happy or lose your business.

 

[InsaneCdn]

I mean this morning he threatened to kick in my face because I didn't put his shoe on fast enough

Ummm... He's 6, right? What on earth are you doing still putting on his shoes for him?
My difficult child has major motor skills challenges - worse at that age than now. And even HE did his own shoes by age 4. We had to go with velcro, not tie-ups... but independence is vital.

 

[Confused]

buddy,
That's a good idea, I will call them first, I believe they have a list of what Dr.s he can be covered with and I will go into these clinics, not just call!Your right, you all have been right to switch and with them having different opinions on diseases let alone a temper issue, it makes no sense! Yes, on the video, yes, I will have all saved and another set that is a lot shorter in length. Thank you

 

[Confused]

InsaneCdn,
Yes! My point exactly! The only reason I put it on was to stop his tantrum and get him to school. I know, even then I shouldn't of. I refuse to dress him 99% of the time but my father does because my son will have a fit. My son can change himself since, I don't remember, whats the average age they do that? I think it was after 3 because he was showing off. (age two - three it was hard because he had leg braces) I agree with the Independence, I know we try to avoid tantrums but like I told my dad, let him have it.( Or he will stay naked and refuse to dress.) I'm glad your son accomplished that If you dont mind, Im going to tell him that someone I know, her son was doing his own shoes/clothes by 4 and he has motor skill problems. He understands that because the Speech and at the Dr's we explained what it was. Thank you

 

[InsaneCdn]

her son was doing his own shoes/clothes by 4 and he has motor skill problems

Now... truth be told, we made it easy for him... no buttons on shirts, velcro shoes, elastic waisted pants so that the button/zipper were "optional". Had to choose clothes the night before (or it took way too long in the morning)... and he'd get up, and get dressed.

 

[Confused]

InsaneCdn,
Thank you Im glad he can get dressed on his own!