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26 yr old homeless drug addicted son
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 726360" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am sorry that you are in this situation. This is horrible! </p><p></p><p>Sadly, you cannot force your son to get help. He has the right to not get treatment for mental illness or drug problems. Unless he is a danger to himself or others at the immediate time the cops or the ambulance is there to see him, he won't be taken away.</p><p></p><p>It is time to do what you can to protect yourself. Can you handle a dog? Get one and train it to be loyal to you and to protect you. It doesn't have to be a particular breed, mutts are fine. Often mutts and shelter rescues are the most loyal. It will take some time to train it up if you get a young dog or a puppy, but it sounds like this may be a long term problem. </p><p></p><p>If a dog is not a possibility, get a gun or some pepper spray. I would also look into other self defense options that are legal in your state. Tell the cops that you are terrified and you want to know what you can legally have to protect yourself when he comes around. If he catches you while you are coming home or leaving to go somewhere, you could be in BIG trouble. That is why you need to learn to have pepper spray. NOT in your bag, but in your hand when you leave and enter your home. Yes, it sounds paranoid, but it isn't. If your son is on drugs, you have no idea how he will react to ANYTHING. You don't know what his drugs have been altered with. You don't know what he is seeing and hearing besides what you see and hear. Protecting yourself at vulnerable moments is important. A self defense course is also a good idea.</p><p></p><p>You might want a security company to come take a look at your property. Even if you don't hire them, they can give you ideas of where you are vulnerable and what you can do about it.</p><p></p><p>I would also get the name and badge number of every cop who responds and ask why they will not take him in for trespassing as he does not live there? Ask why they will not press charges for stalking and harassment? Write down their answers or just have your phone with you, not obviously out, but in your hand and recording audio. Then take the info to the Chief of Police or the Sheriff and ask him why you cannot get anything done when the cops keep responding and you keep asking them to do things but they won't? I would call regularly, every time he shows up, for a month. If he damages ANYTHING, insist that you want to press charges. Do NOT drop the charges if you start to feel sorry for him because that will make you lose all credibility with the cops. It will also tell your son that he can continue to make you miserable. </p><p></p><p>There is nothing wrong with being at peace when he is in jail. Sadly, jail is our largest mental health provider in this nation. Plus he gets meals, a bed and utilities, plus medical care. And he isn't out there making you fearful every day! Why wouldn't you be at peace when he is in jail???</p><p>Again, I am so sorry you are in this situation.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 726360, member: 1233"] I am sorry that you are in this situation. This is horrible! Sadly, you cannot force your son to get help. He has the right to not get treatment for mental illness or drug problems. Unless he is a danger to himself or others at the immediate time the cops or the ambulance is there to see him, he won't be taken away. It is time to do what you can to protect yourself. Can you handle a dog? Get one and train it to be loyal to you and to protect you. It doesn't have to be a particular breed, mutts are fine. Often mutts and shelter rescues are the most loyal. It will take some time to train it up if you get a young dog or a puppy, but it sounds like this may be a long term problem. If a dog is not a possibility, get a gun or some pepper spray. I would also look into other self defense options that are legal in your state. Tell the cops that you are terrified and you want to know what you can legally have to protect yourself when he comes around. If he catches you while you are coming home or leaving to go somewhere, you could be in BIG trouble. That is why you need to learn to have pepper spray. NOT in your bag, but in your hand when you leave and enter your home. Yes, it sounds paranoid, but it isn't. If your son is on drugs, you have no idea how he will react to ANYTHING. You don't know what his drugs have been altered with. You don't know what he is seeing and hearing besides what you see and hear. Protecting yourself at vulnerable moments is important. A self defense course is also a good idea. You might want a security company to come take a look at your property. Even if you don't hire them, they can give you ideas of where you are vulnerable and what you can do about it. I would also get the name and badge number of every cop who responds and ask why they will not take him in for trespassing as he does not live there? Ask why they will not press charges for stalking and harassment? Write down their answers or just have your phone with you, not obviously out, but in your hand and recording audio. Then take the info to the Chief of Police or the Sheriff and ask him why you cannot get anything done when the cops keep responding and you keep asking them to do things but they won't? I would call regularly, every time he shows up, for a month. If he damages ANYTHING, insist that you want to press charges. Do NOT drop the charges if you start to feel sorry for him because that will make you lose all credibility with the cops. It will also tell your son that he can continue to make you miserable. There is nothing wrong with being at peace when he is in jail. Sadly, jail is our largest mental health provider in this nation. Plus he gets meals, a bed and utilities, plus medical care. And he isn't out there making you fearful every day! Why wouldn't you be at peace when he is in jail??? Again, I am so sorry you are in this situation. [/QUOTE]
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