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27yr old son Missing for days now...Heroin addict
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 707414" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>This is your son on drugs putting all of you in danger, probably lying about his need to pay off dealers in order to use money himself, not being forced to sell drugs...Selling them (my ex drug addict daughter is very candid in saying "never trust a word a drug addict says"and "if you use, you sell too.") She has nothing to gain by sharing these insights. She's been off drugs for years and lives a peaceful life now, but likes to help drug users and their families STOP using and enabling the addict.</p><p></p><p>How selfish of this son to even consider putting his own parents in danger, but they are totally selfish. If you had taken a bullet for him, how would that have helped him? What about the other loved ones you left behind? And his guilt?</p><p></p><p>Newsflash: the money you gave him to pay off drug dealer was for son to buy drugs himself. He ran off after he had enough to use and sell. Never give cash to a drug addict. His story was bogus. It was for his own use. </p><p>Ask my daughter about it</p><p></p><p>You did not save him. You risked ,your life and he is no better. Astonishing how addicts have often no problem putting their own families at peril. Many are over 25 and still want mommy and daddy to risk their lives for their own choices. Trust me, drug addicts do not tell us true stories. They are never victims as they can quit, move, and cut off contact with the bad guys. My daughter did it. she used meth, crack, psychedelics and even tried heroin. What saved her from heroin addiction is she only smoked a few times, did not inject any drugs. She used from the tender age of 12 to 19. I give her this. Drug dealers were after her so she left town, no forwarding address to dealers, and detoxed with a new boyfriend+she is with him twelve years later) in a basement that her disapproving straight arrow brother let her use for a while.</p><p></p><p>Hope lies with your sons true willingness to quit, not with your bravery to takes bullet for his horrible lifestyle.</p><p></p><p>These are our babies all grown up. Mine was a girl, which I sometimes think is harder. I adopted her.i remember the day the little baby arrived from Asia, all dressed up and beautiful. I had to stop thinking about the sweet beautiful baby girl when dangerous people and cops kept coming around. I had two younger beloved adoptee children who were scared of these visits and of her when she was high. And I never slept as I thought of my beautiful, smart, creative princess running out on the streets by finding creative ways out of the house. Even homeschooling did not slow it down. They are so sneaky. She was on parole twice. It didn't scare her.</p><p></p><p>My husband and I were responsible to stay alive...for our other younger children, our older child, and the love we had for one another. It is so heartbreaking to see the kids we raised with love and good values and opportunities throw their lives away. Yes, we would die for them if we see them threatened. In the moment we do not think of the horror we'd leave behind if that happened.</p><p></p><p>I had to think of my beautiful, fragile China doll daughters danger to us. She had meth marks all over her beautiful face. She didn't weigh 80 Pounds.l thought she would die or end in jail with jail my first choice.</p><p></p><p>Instead her father and I cried and, yes, detached and let her choices go, and prayed shed see the light. She did. She quit even cigarettes and now went back to college and owns a house with her thriving boyfriend of twelve years and gave me my most precious gifts ever...Her sobriety and my sunshine, my granddaughter.</p><p></p><p>There is hope. I believe we need to detach to give them a chance. If he will go to rehab and truly work on his addiction that may help. That is all you can do to help your beautiful boy,/man. Do not put yourself in harm's way for him again. If indeed be told you the truth (very doubtful) then you could have been shot. And guess what,? He could have been shot after you were. What would that have done to your family! Your other loved ones?</p><p></p><p>Don't mess in dangerous drug houses thinking you can save your precious son. Only he can save himself and he shouldn't be placing you and his father in danger too.</p><p></p><p>He needs treatment and a sincere desire to quit and that is it. Nothing else works. This post moved me because of your tremendous love and willingness to sacrifice for your son. What a big heart you have. They abuse our love.</p><p></p><p>I don't know if this helped you. I did hope to help out see that only your son can save himself. I pray he will. If you believe in a higher power like me, prayers are all you can do.</p><p></p><p>Please keep us updated. You are a precious, special person who deserves to be safe.</p><p></p><p>If love and our help could save out adult children, this forum would not exist.</p><p></p><p>Hugs prayers love to you and yours. Keep the Faith but stay safe.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 707414, member: 1550"] This is your son on drugs putting all of you in danger, probably lying about his need to pay off dealers in order to use money himself, not being forced to sell drugs...Selling them (my ex drug addict daughter is very candid in saying "never trust a word a drug addict says"and "if you use, you sell too.") She has nothing to gain by sharing these insights. She's been off drugs for years and lives a peaceful life now, but likes to help drug users and their families STOP using and enabling the addict. How selfish of this son to even consider putting his own parents in danger, but they are totally selfish. If you had taken a bullet for him, how would that have helped him? What about the other loved ones you left behind? And his guilt? Newsflash: the money you gave him to pay off drug dealer was for son to buy drugs himself. He ran off after he had enough to use and sell. Never give cash to a drug addict. His story was bogus. It was for his own use. Ask my daughter about it You did not save him. You risked ,your life and he is no better. Astonishing how addicts have often no problem putting their own families at peril. Many are over 25 and still want mommy and daddy to risk their lives for their own choices. Trust me, drug addicts do not tell us true stories. They are never victims as they can quit, move, and cut off contact with the bad guys. My daughter did it. she used meth, crack, psychedelics and even tried heroin. What saved her from heroin addiction is she only smoked a few times, did not inject any drugs. She used from the tender age of 12 to 19. I give her this. Drug dealers were after her so she left town, no forwarding address to dealers, and detoxed with a new boyfriend+she is with him twelve years later) in a basement that her disapproving straight arrow brother let her use for a while. Hope lies with your sons true willingness to quit, not with your bravery to takes bullet for his horrible lifestyle. These are our babies all grown up. Mine was a girl, which I sometimes think is harder. I adopted her.i remember the day the little baby arrived from Asia, all dressed up and beautiful. I had to stop thinking about the sweet beautiful baby girl when dangerous people and cops kept coming around. I had two younger beloved adoptee children who were scared of these visits and of her when she was high. And I never slept as I thought of my beautiful, smart, creative princess running out on the streets by finding creative ways out of the house. Even homeschooling did not slow it down. They are so sneaky. She was on parole twice. It didn't scare her. My husband and I were responsible to stay alive...for our other younger children, our older child, and the love we had for one another. It is so heartbreaking to see the kids we raised with love and good values and opportunities throw their lives away. Yes, we would die for them if we see them threatened. In the moment we do not think of the horror we'd leave behind if that happened. I had to think of my beautiful, fragile China doll daughters danger to us. She had meth marks all over her beautiful face. She didn't weigh 80 Pounds.l thought she would die or end in jail with jail my first choice. Instead her father and I cried and, yes, detached and let her choices go, and prayed shed see the light. She did. She quit even cigarettes and now went back to college and owns a house with her thriving boyfriend of twelve years and gave me my most precious gifts ever...Her sobriety and my sunshine, my granddaughter. There is hope. I believe we need to detach to give them a chance. If he will go to rehab and truly work on his addiction that may help. That is all you can do to help your beautiful boy,/man. Do not put yourself in harm's way for him again. If indeed be told you the truth (very doubtful) then you could have been shot. And guess what,? He could have been shot after you were. What would that have done to your family! Your other loved ones? Don't mess in dangerous drug houses thinking you can save your precious son. Only he can save himself and he shouldn't be placing you and his father in danger too. He needs treatment and a sincere desire to quit and that is it. Nothing else works. This post moved me because of your tremendous love and willingness to sacrifice for your son. What a big heart you have. They abuse our love. I don't know if this helped you. I did hope to help out see that only your son can save himself. I pray he will. If you believe in a higher power like me, prayers are all you can do. Please keep us updated. You are a precious, special person who deserves to be safe. If love and our help could save out adult children, this forum would not exist. Hugs prayers love to you and yours. Keep the Faith but stay safe. [/QUOTE]
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