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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 665535" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>The thing is, worried sick mother, what will you do when you find out?</p><p></p><p>Think about the situation. You are paying part of his rent. He won't let you in.</p><p></p><p>You said no other people. You think 2 more people are living there.</p><p></p><p>If your suspicions are correct you may be subsidizing him to collect rent from 2 people who give him money, possibly to buy drugs.</p><p></p><p>Where is your leverage? Each of our children has the power through their foolish and destructive choices to kill themselves or others. How will you stop your son? How will I stop my son?</p><p></p><p>My son has an illness that is fatal if not controlled. A medicine that he will not take will control the illness. What can I do? He is an adult.</p><p></p><p>The more we try to control our children, the more likely they are to rebel and to do more of the thing that we most fear. That is the reality. The sooner we realize this, the better it will be for us.</p><p></p><p>Accept it. All of our children have the potential to be foolhardy enough to kill themselves. What can we do? What can you do?</p><p></p><p>Nothing you can do can make one bit of difference.</p><p></p><p>The only thing we can do is to stop enabling our kids. Stop giving them money or support so that they can run more amok. Leave them to their own devices so that they can see exactly what is the life they are choosing.</p><p></p><p>I wish it were different. But they are not our babies anymore.They are adults with the freedom to choose their own destinies.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 665535, member: 18958"] The thing is, worried sick mother, what will you do when you find out? Think about the situation. You are paying part of his rent. He won't let you in. You said no other people. You think 2 more people are living there. If your suspicions are correct you may be subsidizing him to collect rent from 2 people who give him money, possibly to buy drugs. Where is your leverage? Each of our children has the power through their foolish and destructive choices to kill themselves or others. How will you stop your son? How will I stop my son? My son has an illness that is fatal if not controlled. A medicine that he will not take will control the illness. What can I do? He is an adult. The more we try to control our children, the more likely they are to rebel and to do more of the thing that we most fear. That is the reality. The sooner we realize this, the better it will be for us. Accept it. All of our children have the potential to be foolhardy enough to kill themselves. What can we do? What can you do? Nothing you can do can make one bit of difference. The only thing we can do is to stop enabling our kids. Stop giving them money or support so that they can run more amok. Leave them to their own devices so that they can see exactly what is the life they are choosing. I wish it were different. But they are not our babies anymore.They are adults with the freedom to choose their own destinies. [/QUOTE]
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