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3 stores, 2 was he&* and Im just going in circles!!!(Bigger clothes why??)Broken door...
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 626183" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Well, one way would be to stop taking as much care of your older relatives than your kids. If you don't change that, your kids are going to suffer big time. And if your pediatrician won't give you a referral, which is very unusual, then I'd go elsewhere even without a referral. Pay out of pocket. You said grandfather helps you...tell him you need money to help your son. Nothing is more important than he is. He is NOT getting treatment!!! HE NEEDS IT!</p><p></p><p>None of us know what to tell you to do, I assume. Seriously, you can not take care of a difficult grandfather (you post more about his issues than their issues), a sick father, and your kids. You don't have the time to focus on the little ones who are just starting out in life and either will make it or not depending upon their care. Don't try to guess your son yourself. Take him for serious help and make your main focus on HIM. HE is the child. The others lived their lives already and are what they are...and they are not in my opinion good examples for your son. Nor is the way you put yourself last and let others walk all over you. Your son is not learning that you can say "no" and could use that in your future years with him.</p><p></p><p>Insanity: Continuing to care for abusive grandfather who takes up half your time, your ill father, plus your children and make no time for yourself...see that none of them are doing well yet keep on doing it over and over again because you feel guilty. You need a therapist yourself to help you figure it out. Because the insanity of it is...no matter what you are doing, it isn't working for anyone yet you keep doing it. Nobody is thriving, especially not you or your son. But you keep thinking you have to keep it up. Seriously, if t hings don't change for your lifestyle, nothing will change. Period.</p><p></p><p>I think you are very kind, but this is not how you, your grandfather, your father and your children should live. If you keep living this way, they will keep living this way too and your son will not get the help he needs and you will be a mess. I so hope the day comes when you tell us that you have taken that first step, and gone for therapy. If you have no time for YOU, how can you be good for anyone else????</p><p></p><p>You are the main caregiver. YOU should be the one in charge and do what you feel is best, not what THEY want you to do. They don't even know what is best for them, just what they want. You can not keep going on this way and STAY healthy enough to be anyone's caregiver and you must live as long as you can for your babies. Not to mention, we all love you too (yes, that's selfish).</p><p></p><p>Hugs!!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 626183, member: 1550"] Well, one way would be to stop taking as much care of your older relatives than your kids. If you don't change that, your kids are going to suffer big time. And if your pediatrician won't give you a referral, which is very unusual, then I'd go elsewhere even without a referral. Pay out of pocket. You said grandfather helps you...tell him you need money to help your son. Nothing is more important than he is. He is NOT getting treatment!!! HE NEEDS IT! None of us know what to tell you to do, I assume. Seriously, you can not take care of a difficult grandfather (you post more about his issues than their issues), a sick father, and your kids. You don't have the time to focus on the little ones who are just starting out in life and either will make it or not depending upon their care. Don't try to guess your son yourself. Take him for serious help and make your main focus on HIM. HE is the child. The others lived their lives already and are what they are...and they are not in my opinion good examples for your son. Nor is the way you put yourself last and let others walk all over you. Your son is not learning that you can say "no" and could use that in your future years with him. Insanity: Continuing to care for abusive grandfather who takes up half your time, your ill father, plus your children and make no time for yourself...see that none of them are doing well yet keep on doing it over and over again because you feel guilty. You need a therapist yourself to help you figure it out. Because the insanity of it is...no matter what you are doing, it isn't working for anyone yet you keep doing it. Nobody is thriving, especially not you or your son. But you keep thinking you have to keep it up. Seriously, if t hings don't change for your lifestyle, nothing will change. Period. I think you are very kind, but this is not how you, your grandfather, your father and your children should live. If you keep living this way, they will keep living this way too and your son will not get the help he needs and you will be a mess. I so hope the day comes when you tell us that you have taken that first step, and gone for therapy. If you have no time for YOU, how can you be good for anyone else???? You are the main caregiver. YOU should be the one in charge and do what you feel is best, not what THEY want you to do. They don't even know what is best for them, just what they want. You can not keep going on this way and STAY healthy enough to be anyone's caregiver and you must live as long as you can for your babies. Not to mention, we all love you too (yes, that's selfish). Hugs!!!! [/QUOTE]
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