OK - difficult child is 4.5 weeks in to a 60 day court ordered program. He is not benefitting from this program. He has been on edge since the day he walked in. He views himself as not needing to be there and is just counting the days to come home. Truth is, since getting out of in-patient last Spring, he has had a series of relapses and has not been able to string together more than maybe 3 weeks sober. He has more used this time to develop what he considers to be more of a normal partying pattern for a teen of his age and stay away from problem substances, although he has also not been successful with that at times. So now, he counts the days and is just dying to get home. Problem is, we don't think that's what's best for him or us. I have identified and told him about a transitional living program where he can live in a recovery community and be held accountable for things that support taking care of himself outside our home. When he is in our home, he is very lazy, his room is disgusting, he claims to be looking for a job but really isn't, and barely follows through with any school work at all. It has been exhausting trying to put the bumpers up around him to keep him moving forward and I don't want to do it anymore. It's not that I don't love him, I'm just exhausted and feel "beat" by his determination to do whatever he wants. He has refused the transitional program. He just turned 18 so we are at that important crossroads. I am continuing to push the program, but I don't know if husband and I will have the strength to put him on the street if he refuses. The main thing eating us is the fact that he has not finished HS yet and although it takes a huge effort to get him to meet his school responsibilities, it will be much easier for him to finish here than to try figure out how to finish in a program out of state which is where the program is. 18 is also very young to turn him out. Having said that, he is so disrespectful in our home and gets volatile when confronted about his behavior, so I am really thinking it's time to hold the line. I do think if we hold our ground, he will still refuse and end up on the streets. Would love some feedback.