Hello All, I'm new here but in dire need for some advice. My daughter is 3 years old, just turned in August. She is a strong willed child with a very strong character (confirmed by a pediatric psychologist). Her brother was born in August (2 weeks ago today). She really likes her little brother and helps change his diapers and give him food, etc. We prepared her from the very beginning and took her to almost all the ultrasounds. But they have told us at school that she told a friend that her brother was only visiting for a few days. We corrected that the same day and explained he was staying and her brother. The problem we are having is recently at pre-school. She has been attending school since 1.5 yrs. The first year and a half has had some bumps along the way, but nothing really horrible. These last two weeks though have been really difficult. She keeps throwing tantrums at school. The teacher ends up calling us and we have to go get her and bring her home. When we get here we take away her favorite toys, ipad, mario bros. The tantrums have been getting worse and today she had to come home because she hit 2 kids, threw a boot at a teacher and spit in another teachers face. She really does loose it so to speak. Today she was in the mini library they have at the school and she was climbing up the shelves and throwing all the books on the floor. The teachers are trying to tell us we are not strict enough at home. But then at the same time tell us that in certain situations they just let her get away with hitting another kid because the other kid was trying to get into her favorite play house. She also has her grandparents here and have been here for about 4 weeks. When they first arrived they gave into almost everything she requested, but ultimately now they see that wasn't a great idea. We have got our daughter back in control at home (for a few weeks now) but seems she is really struggling at school. Any suggestions as to what we should do? Should we stick to bringing her home when she acts up at school or is there a better solution? Thanks in advance for your help!