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33 year old difficult child homeless in CO
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<blockquote data-quote="Tiredof33" data-source="post: 638821" data-attributes="member: 13558"><p>My difficult child was just homeless in Co and somehow they had money to go to concerts in the near by towns.</p><p></p><p>Mine is another that I have had to step away from. He and girlie were having verbal fights on FB using vulgar language. Friends and family stepped in to weigh their opinions. Then he was posting suicidal messages and one female sort of friend pointed out to him that anyone reading his posts had to call the authorities. That stopped!</p><p></p><p>When I was searching for answers (or any kind of help) and the online forums were very new a member would post to every newbie, 'just face the facts, your kid is a loser, accept it and move on with your life'. I do not think any of them are losers, I think they face very real (to them anyway) trouble that they can not (or do not want to) find a way to control.</p><p></p><p>Mine started at a very early age, had the bad father figure, and I struggled with guilt. They use it against you! I'm long over the guilt. I've tried so many time to help him, and he has had so many opportunities to turn his life around. I have finally accepted that he doesn't want a different life.</p><p></p><p>Find things you enjoy to take your mind off your difficult child and his ever continuing problems and drama. I have seen mine clean and sober and I know how much the drugs and alcohol add to the difficult child behavior. It's their choice, no one can change them, and until they want to change, they will continue exactly as they are now.</p><p></p><p>My difficult child and girlie like to fight, he cuts himself and threatens suicide, and she thought she would call me each time (which was often). I refused to get involved, other than call the police to check on him, and she is furious with me. She started leaving me voice messages at 6AM, 'it's on b****!' and I finally called the police to stop the harassing calls. They had a bad fight and she was arrested, two years ago. They just moved back from being homeless in CO, and now after another fight HE is arrested.</p><p></p><p>I also have close family members that like to tell me it's all my fault, he needs help, same ole same ole. So I don't discuss it with them.</p><p></p><p>To ease your mind, girlie posted frequently about how good CO is to the homeless. She frequently said she never met a homeless person that was going hungry or need clothes to wear. </p><p></p><p>You are fortunate to have a good relationship with the daughter in law. Mine is another difficult child just like my son and together they make a scary pair.</p><p></p><p>I also hear from mine when he is in jail, they are clean and sober, have good intentions that are forgotten the minute they walk out the jail door.</p><p></p><p>(((hugs and blessings)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiredof33, post: 638821, member: 13558"] My difficult child was just homeless in Co and somehow they had money to go to concerts in the near by towns. Mine is another that I have had to step away from. He and girlie were having verbal fights on FB using vulgar language. Friends and family stepped in to weigh their opinions. Then he was posting suicidal messages and one female sort of friend pointed out to him that anyone reading his posts had to call the authorities. That stopped! When I was searching for answers (or any kind of help) and the online forums were very new a member would post to every newbie, 'just face the facts, your kid is a loser, accept it and move on with your life'. I do not think any of them are losers, I think they face very real (to them anyway) trouble that they can not (or do not want to) find a way to control. Mine started at a very early age, had the bad father figure, and I struggled with guilt. They use it against you! I'm long over the guilt. I've tried so many time to help him, and he has had so many opportunities to turn his life around. I have finally accepted that he doesn't want a different life. Find things you enjoy to take your mind off your difficult child and his ever continuing problems and drama. I have seen mine clean and sober and I know how much the drugs and alcohol add to the difficult child behavior. It's their choice, no one can change them, and until they want to change, they will continue exactly as they are now. My difficult child and girlie like to fight, he cuts himself and threatens suicide, and she thought she would call me each time (which was often). I refused to get involved, other than call the police to check on him, and she is furious with me. She started leaving me voice messages at 6AM, 'it's on b****!' and I finally called the police to stop the harassing calls. They had a bad fight and she was arrested, two years ago. They just moved back from being homeless in CO, and now after another fight HE is arrested. I also have close family members that like to tell me it's all my fault, he needs help, same ole same ole. So I don't discuss it with them. To ease your mind, girlie posted frequently about how good CO is to the homeless. She frequently said she never met a homeless person that was going hungry or need clothes to wear. You are fortunate to have a good relationship with the daughter in law. Mine is another difficult child just like my son and together they make a scary pair. I also hear from mine when he is in jail, they are clean and sober, have good intentions that are forgotten the minute they walk out the jail door. (((hugs and blessings))) [/QUOTE]
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