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<blockquote data-quote="Mcmary" data-source="post: 707891" data-attributes="member: 21363"><p>OK, I'm doing all the right things but I'm still doing the wrong things as well! She is not answering texts so what do I do? I send her daily inspirational texts from the reading I've been doing (Course on Miracles, CODA, whatever is helpful that I read that day). I'm probably driving her away and how do I even know she is receptive to ANYTHING coming from me. She must need to detach from me because, in her mind, I'm causing her anxiety or whatever. So, no, I'm NOT Detaching the way I need to be. There is only one CODA meeting here in town each week and that group says there is a 30 day no contact rule for their relationships (not parent child). I've left her alone before and I'm not sure that was the right thing for her (it did help me, however). </p><p></p><p>Did I post here about the session with the very expensive "expert" therapist on estrangement? I actually do feel he is very knowledgeable and he was ABSOLUTELY right in all his recommendations he gave us regarding our daughter-in-law and estrangement. But this time I talked to him about my bio daughter and her anxiety/mental illness/homelessness. I told him I needed help detaching and letting her go homeless. You know what he said? That isn't always the right answer! He wants to meet her (kind of hard as she won't answer calls or text) and see what's going on. Maybe help me figure out how to help her! I would gladly pay for some family therapy but she needs to be receptive to it... anyway, he confused me all over again! Everything I read talks about letting them fall on the floor and he says maybe I should show my support and help her with some conditions....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mcmary, post: 707891, member: 21363"] OK, I'm doing all the right things but I'm still doing the wrong things as well! She is not answering texts so what do I do? I send her daily inspirational texts from the reading I've been doing (Course on Miracles, CODA, whatever is helpful that I read that day). I'm probably driving her away and how do I even know she is receptive to ANYTHING coming from me. She must need to detach from me because, in her mind, I'm causing her anxiety or whatever. So, no, I'm NOT Detaching the way I need to be. There is only one CODA meeting here in town each week and that group says there is a 30 day no contact rule for their relationships (not parent child). I've left her alone before and I'm not sure that was the right thing for her (it did help me, however). Did I post here about the session with the very expensive "expert" therapist on estrangement? I actually do feel he is very knowledgeable and he was ABSOLUTELY right in all his recommendations he gave us regarding our daughter-in-law and estrangement. But this time I talked to him about my bio daughter and her anxiety/mental illness/homelessness. I told him I needed help detaching and letting her go homeless. You know what he said? That isn't always the right answer! He wants to meet her (kind of hard as she won't answer calls or text) and see what's going on. Maybe help me figure out how to help her! I would gladly pay for some family therapy but she needs to be receptive to it... anyway, he confused me all over again! Everything I read talks about letting them fall on the floor and he says maybe I should show my support and help her with some conditions.... [/QUOTE]
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