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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 639406" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Oh ECHO, I am so sorry. Your heartbreak comes across the page..........and your son is living in the world of his own making.........for better or worse, it is his. </p><p></p><p>I don't have any answers, these seem to be the kinds of issues which are not definable or able to fit into a category for our brain to wrap itself around..........the great unknown, the great uncertainty, the great big, 'I just don't know.'</p><p></p><p>You didn't spread hate, geez, you set a boundary, probably the same boundary your other kids needed now too. </p><p></p><p>As you know, I've been around mental illness my whole life........the level of despairing is one thing, however, the sheer force of our own powerlessness in the face of it is staggering. It has brought me to my knees with the recognition of how little control I have to effect change in the life course of another, no matter who they are.........</p><p></p><p>.......there is great suffering there.......</p><p></p><p>Step back from the edge of the cliff.........and then step back again.........it appears as if you and your son require more time to be apart.......until the time when some clarity arises within you and the path is once again lit up with that feeling of 'I know what to do now.' Until then, I believe the doubt is something to respect, it means we are not ready yet. Something is brewing and we don't know what it is........but life doesn't stay in one place, it's always moving.........</p><p></p><p>........in the meantime, hang out in the uncertainty........ refrain........let go..........gratefully, it <em>will</em> pass. </p><p></p><p>JKF is having a weird night too...........we'll circle our wagons around you two, say prayers, send warm hugs for you both and for your difficult children.........it's a strange dance and we all deserve so much compassion and kindness........our kids too.........</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 639406, member: 13542"] Oh ECHO, I am so sorry. Your heartbreak comes across the page..........and your son is living in the world of his own making.........for better or worse, it is his. I don't have any answers, these seem to be the kinds of issues which are not definable or able to fit into a category for our brain to wrap itself around..........the great unknown, the great uncertainty, the great big, 'I just don't know.' You didn't spread hate, geez, you set a boundary, probably the same boundary your other kids needed now too. As you know, I've been around mental illness my whole life........the level of despairing is one thing, however, the sheer force of our own powerlessness in the face of it is staggering. It has brought me to my knees with the recognition of how little control I have to effect change in the life course of another, no matter who they are......... .......there is great suffering there....... Step back from the edge of the cliff.........and then step back again.........it appears as if you and your son require more time to be apart.......until the time when some clarity arises within you and the path is once again lit up with that feeling of 'I know what to do now.' Until then, I believe the doubt is something to respect, it means we are not ready yet. Something is brewing and we don't know what it is........but life doesn't stay in one place, it's always moving......... ........in the meantime, hang out in the uncertainty........ refrain........let go..........gratefully, it [I]will[/I] pass. JKF is having a weird night too...........we'll circle our wagons around you two, say prayers, send warm hugs for you both and for your difficult children.........it's a strange dance and we all deserve so much compassion and kindness........our kids too......... [/QUOTE]
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