Hi everyone. This is my first post here, and I'm hoping you all can provide me some insight on how to discipline/handle problem behavior that really only happens at school. My son is a very bright and happy little boy. He met all his milestones. He is chatty, loves art, music and lego. He has close friends with whom he has regular playdates, including sleepovers, with no problems. He has been in daycare since the age of 12 months, again without issue. I take him to playgroups several mornings a week and he behaves perfectly. He started school this past September and it has been a disaster. Here is a list of problem behaviors that we got from the teacher: Lashing out at others unprovoked Jumping on children during play Non-compliance when teacher is attempting to disengage him from negative behavior - lashes out hitting, kicking and screaming Imaginative play is singluar - when others do not engage with his idea frustration erupts Concern for others does not seem to be evident during these situations Awareness of seriousness of the situation does not appear to exist They said that the biggest issue is transition time - getting him dressed and ready to go outside to play is a daily struggle. We were shocked and surprised when presented with this - we see none of these behaviors at home. That is not to say that he does not misbehave from time to time (and what four year old does not?), but when he does he accepts his time-out calmly, and gives hugs and says sorry after the time-out. At school he has damaged doors and walls during time-outs (ripping a panel off the door, for example). He has never done anything destructive like this at home. We have tried using positive re-inforcement - a small reward for each day of good behavior with a special big reward on the weekend if he behaves all week. So far this has had no effect. We have cut added sugar from his diet. This is complicated for us because everything we have read indicates that any consequence should be immediate at this age... we employ this at home but we are not at school with him so we cannot even discuss these problem behaviors with him until he returns home from school - far too late for us to use any type of discipline, by that logic. We have been to our family doctor and he has referred us to a specialist for a formal assessment. In the meantime, do you have any suggestions of strategies we can use to encourage him to behave at school? I should add that he says he wants to behave. Each day on the way to school we "review" the list of things he is going to do and not do. Every day he comes home with a bad report and says that he tried to be good but he just couldn't. It breaks my heart because he is such a great kid, it hurts to think that at school they view him as the trouble-maker. There has been a lot of change in our lives over the past six months (we moved, he started school, new baby in the family) and my hope is that he is acting out as a reaction to all this change... but why don't we see it at home? Thanks in advance for any advice or insight.