My in laws moved to our town a year ago and the brought my brother in law with them. Since he's gotten here he's had about 10 days of work and has spent the rest of the time doing very little. My in laws are both retired and in somewhat poor health. My wife and I have our own kids that we are raising, and we do not want to take him in too when his parents pass away. His parents are not rich and they will definitely not have enough money for him to live on for the rest of his life. I think he is walking all over his parents and they are funding a lifestyle which must be boring and unsatisfying to say the least. And his mom(my mother in law) doesn't help when she gives him money for running errands, etc. We've tried to encourage him to get his life going by going back to school to finish college, reviewing his résumé or suggesting jobs, but all these ideas appear to go in one ear and out the other. He's full of excuses and stories but nothing seems to happen. The only type of job he wants is one " that will give him an income". He always has a reason why he's not working( getting settled, the job offer he got was too far away, he can't work and go to school if he takes that job( even though he's doing neither)). He keeps turning down jobs. I've never heard of someone turn down so many jobs. It makes me skeptical that is truly the case. Any ideas on how we can get him to get his act together? We've tried talking to my inlaws and that doesn't seem to go anywhere either. They know there's a problem, but they may have given up on finding a solution.