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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 637927" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Well Marie, it sounds as if your son is punishing you. Punishing you for not giving him what he needs. As the others have said, you are involved in a 'game' of sorts, one in which you always lose and your son always wins. He has manipulated you to get his needs met and now his needs aren't getting met, so he'll show you, he'll stop the interaction and he is well aware of how that will make you suffer. In some amount of time, you will likely hear from him and the next level of abuse will begin.</p><p></p><p>Marie, get yourself some support, this stuff is very, very hard on us parents. Find a 12 step group, or a therapist, or a parent group. NAMI has courses for parents who have mentally challenged kids........National Alliance on Mental Illness, you can access them online, they have chapters in most major cities and towns. Don't try to stoically do this alone, it is just too hard. It will help you immensely to seek out and gain some guidance, support, a safe place to vent and cry and get the support you need and deserve.</p><p></p><p>Stay the course Marie, you are involved in an abusive relationship and the way to stop it is to STOP the abuser from abusing you. You've taken a giant step forward and it feels scary, change is weird and scary in the beginning. Breathe deeply. Take a walk. Eat well. Sleep well. Get support. Take very good care of YOU now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 637927, member: 13542"] Well Marie, it sounds as if your son is punishing you. Punishing you for not giving him what he needs. As the others have said, you are involved in a 'game' of sorts, one in which you always lose and your son always wins. He has manipulated you to get his needs met and now his needs aren't getting met, so he'll show you, he'll stop the interaction and he is well aware of how that will make you suffer. In some amount of time, you will likely hear from him and the next level of abuse will begin. Marie, get yourself some support, this stuff is very, very hard on us parents. Find a 12 step group, or a therapist, or a parent group. NAMI has courses for parents who have mentally challenged kids........National Alliance on Mental Illness, you can access them online, they have chapters in most major cities and towns. Don't try to stoically do this alone, it is just too hard. It will help you immensely to seek out and gain some guidance, support, a safe place to vent and cry and get the support you need and deserve. Stay the course Marie, you are involved in an abusive relationship and the way to stop it is to STOP the abuser from abusing you. You've taken a giant step forward and it feels scary, change is weird and scary in the beginning. Breathe deeply. Take a walk. Eat well. Sleep well. Get support. Take very good care of YOU now. [/QUOTE]
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