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5 reasons to stop saying ' Good Job ' - Alfie Kohn
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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 15605" data-attributes="member: 393"><p>All of the reward systems & "good jobs" have taught the tweedles a sense of entitlement. I'm reminded of the episode of Everyone Loves Raymond where grandma rants on & on about stickers. A sticker for going potty, good job is the line that stuck with me the most.</p><p></p><p>When kt is home, I thank her for going the extra step in her chores & whatnot. Other than that, I encourage her to make good choices & reiterate the feeling of having done the "right thing" as a reward.</p><p></p><p>Fighting the reward mentality in both kt & wm is an ongoing battle for us. wm, especially, is so very stuck on our visits being all about spending money on him, rather than spending time playing a game, taking a walk or reading together. Our visits, therefore, aren't always pleasant.</p><p></p><p>Thanks for posting this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 15605, member: 393"] All of the reward systems & "good jobs" have taught the tweedles a sense of entitlement. I'm reminded of the episode of Everyone Loves Raymond where grandma rants on & on about stickers. A sticker for going potty, good job is the line that stuck with me the most. When kt is home, I thank her for going the extra step in her chores & whatnot. Other than that, I encourage her to make good choices & reiterate the feeling of having done the "right thing" as a reward. Fighting the reward mentality in both kt & wm is an ongoing battle for us. wm, especially, is so very stuck on our visits being all about spending money on him, rather than spending time playing a game, taking a walk or reading together. Our visits, therefore, aren't always pleasant. Thanks for posting this. [/QUOTE]
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