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5 reasons to stop saying ' Good Job ' - Alfie Kohn
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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 15608" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>I've never been one to over praise a child. Although I'll hand out a hardy Good Job to a child who has worked hard and earned it.</p><p></p><p>I caught on to all the over praising when I was a kid. Honestlly, it got on my nerves when people did it. Most especially when teachers did it. And believe me, sometimes they would praise the most ridiculous things.</p><p></p><p>I'm seeing it again in college now. It still gets on my nerves. lol My human biology professor is one of the most intelligent and nicest men you could ever meet. I really like the guy. But he goes way over board on the praise. I think he'd be mortified if he ever thought he'd actually hurt a student's feelings. lol</p><p></p><p>But if he tells me how amazingly intelligent I am one more time, I'm gonna gag. Okay, so I get an A in his class. And yes, I'm from what seems to be the dumbest county in the state. (you wouldn't believe it if I told you) But while I'm far from stupid, I'm not amazingly intelligent either. I do the work and I actually study. And I WANT to learn what he has to teach.</p><p></p><p>Back when easy child was young she got mad at us because we stopped praising her A report card and papers. An A for her was the *norm*. While we were proud, I made sure we found other things to praise. Things she really had to work to acheive. But geez, by the time the school was done praising her for her grades, the kid had a head the size of the good year blimp! She didn't need anymore in that area. So I picked things like when she spent the day attempting to draw a picture of something special. Drawing is and never was something that comes easily for her. Or when she'd dare to drift into something completely new.</p><p></p><p>I think when you praise a kid for every little thing, the value of praise soon begins to mean nothing. So that once they do something big and you praise them, it has no real meaning for them anymore.</p><p></p><p>Does that make sense?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 15608, member: 84"] I've never been one to over praise a child. Although I'll hand out a hardy Good Job to a child who has worked hard and earned it. I caught on to all the over praising when I was a kid. Honestlly, it got on my nerves when people did it. Most especially when teachers did it. And believe me, sometimes they would praise the most ridiculous things. I'm seeing it again in college now. It still gets on my nerves. lol My human biology professor is one of the most intelligent and nicest men you could ever meet. I really like the guy. But he goes way over board on the praise. I think he'd be mortified if he ever thought he'd actually hurt a student's feelings. lol But if he tells me how amazingly intelligent I am one more time, I'm gonna gag. Okay, so I get an A in his class. And yes, I'm from what seems to be the dumbest county in the state. (you wouldn't believe it if I told you) But while I'm far from stupid, I'm not amazingly intelligent either. I do the work and I actually study. And I WANT to learn what he has to teach. Back when easy child was young she got mad at us because we stopped praising her A report card and papers. An A for her was the *norm*. While we were proud, I made sure we found other things to praise. Things she really had to work to acheive. But geez, by the time the school was done praising her for her grades, the kid had a head the size of the good year blimp! She didn't need anymore in that area. So I picked things like when she spent the day attempting to draw a picture of something special. Drawing is and never was something that comes easily for her. Or when she'd dare to drift into something completely new. I think when you praise a kid for every little thing, the value of praise soon begins to mean nothing. So that once they do something big and you praise them, it has no real meaning for them anymore. Does that make sense? [/QUOTE]
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