excuse me for not knowing the lingo but I need help...I don't think I can go on like this anymore. I have a 5yr old little girl that is just driving both me and my husband over the edge. From birth she has always been very advanced in speaking and having a conversation with her has always stunned everyone because it is like talking to a much older person. We have heard the term "old sole" from a hundred different people. She can be extremely loving and caring person and has always shown an extreme amount of empathy but that can change within seconds to her becoming and explosive, manipulative, deceitful person. I have a hard time explaining how she gets but I will try my best. We can be getting along great and I will tell her to stop coloring because she is getting it on the table and then she will just start screaming at me something like "I'm not doing anything" and then I will say "stop talking to me like that" and most times she will repeat what I say in a sarcastic voice and one thing escalates to the next. She has never done what I have told her even the simpliest of things on the first try unless she is what I call her other person where she is the most obediant (over the top obediant). The "other person" never lasts more than a few hours although it once lasted 2 weeks and she says the reason that it lasted that long was because I threatened her that I would have to send her to military school and that they serve bad food there (she loves to eat-but is not overweight, we are somewhat strict with her food). We had made an appointment with a psychologist the week before the two week good period had started so when the psychologist asked her what was different to make her behave this way she said "I don't want to go to military school". She is almost like a lightswitch and can so easily be turned from super nice to horribly disobediant. She talks to herself alot and does ALOT of imaginative play...for instance anything that is going on in her life she will pretend to be...like when I told her she would go to military school she pretended to be the warden or if we come back from the library she will pretend to be the librarian...as she is getting older it has become embarrassing how she talks to herself. She is better in school at home but can't keep friends very long because she is very bossy and tells them what to do..the teacher says she gets along well with the people who listen to her. The longer she knows someone the worse she acts to them so now that the school year is almost over I got a phone call and a note home last week with only one other note prior to that. Both this kindergarten teacher and her preschool teacher say that she needs alot of attention. She takes advantage of anyone who has any kind of weakness...if she meets a kid that who cries easily she will do whatever it takes to make that person cry. She was an only child till 10 months ago and is the BEST big sister ever imaginable...She truly thinks she is his mother and corrects anyone who does not do things exactly the way we do for him...we have sensed some jealousy and has even recently said that she jealous and of course we then swarmed her with attention thinking that was what the problem was with her behavior but that didn't help. In her school work she is at level not exceptional but she is what I would call maybe "criminal minded" in her way of manipulating. She is also good with ALL younger children and is obsessed with being a teenager...I often tell her "teenagers do that" in order to make her do something that she doesn't want to and it works. We have been going to the psychologist for 5 weeks and have seen no improvement and he keeps saying ADD cause she can't sit still in his office but I don't know...I really don't think ADD, I think she is just fidgety in his office and I do realize since observing her so closely that when it becomes a certain time of the day she can't sit still and gets so wild that she can hurt herself by just falling all over the place. The only history of mental illness is in her paternal grandmother and great aunt whom both had sychoprenia. I should mention that both me and my husband have a good relationship and I work a few days a week and my husband is home with her on the days I work, he is an unbelievable father but has become so impatient with her that family members who don't know the whole of what we are going through have mentioned how he isn't being nice to her. She is a beautiful, can be very loving little girl that I just want to see turn out well and get along with others, I am not looking for perfection and I treasure the moments when she is the NICE PERSON because you can't imagine how well behaved and loving she can be. I would appreciate any input what-so ever. I should add that she loves animals almost obsessivley and has recently become obsessed with bugs and tries saving every bug in her school yard and brings them home after I repeatedly tell her not to...very weirdly wants them not to get hurt...she says if she doesn't take them home the teachers will step on them...I don't know where the animal or bug thing fits in but I figured I would mention it.