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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 760374" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Do you go to AlAnon? If not, I highly recommend it. Addiction issues are family issues. AlAnon really helped me deal with the history of drinking and codependent behavior in my family, along with my brother. If you just go to one or two meetings and feel uncomfortable, it is easy to give up. If you try to do what they call "30 in 30", meaning you try to do 30 meetings in 30 days, you end up finding which meeting places and times work best for you. If you try to do that, go to meetings at as many different times/places as possible as this will help you find a group that works for you.</p><p></p><p>Going to AlAnon will actually help your child stay sober. Sounds weird, right? I have seen research that says if family members work the AlAnon program, it increases the chances of long term sobriety by 30%. Imagine your child is in high school. If he has good grades, he will get a scholarship. If he doesn't, he won't be able to go to school after high school. If you could increase his grade by 30% by going to a meeting every day for a month and then meetings at least weekly after that, would you do it? His grade could go from a 69% to a 99%. Would you do that for him? Fighting addiction is even more important than grades (and grades are very important in my opinion). So would you do that for your child? There are even online meetings that you can find.</p><p></p><p>If you are wondering what maladaptive behaviors you have learned from being in a family with someone who has substance abuse issues, read "The Laundry List" by Tony A and Dan F. It was a HUGE wakeup call for me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 760374, member: 1233"] Do you go to AlAnon? If not, I highly recommend it. Addiction issues are family issues. AlAnon really helped me deal with the history of drinking and codependent behavior in my family, along with my brother. If you just go to one or two meetings and feel uncomfortable, it is easy to give up. If you try to do what they call "30 in 30", meaning you try to do 30 meetings in 30 days, you end up finding which meeting places and times work best for you. If you try to do that, go to meetings at as many different times/places as possible as this will help you find a group that works for you. Going to AlAnon will actually help your child stay sober. Sounds weird, right? I have seen research that says if family members work the AlAnon program, it increases the chances of long term sobriety by 30%. Imagine your child is in high school. If he has good grades, he will get a scholarship. If he doesn't, he won't be able to go to school after high school. If you could increase his grade by 30% by going to a meeting every day for a month and then meetings at least weekly after that, would you do it? His grade could go from a 69% to a 99%. Would you do that for him? Fighting addiction is even more important than grades (and grades are very important in my opinion). So would you do that for your child? There are even online meetings that you can find. If you are wondering what maladaptive behaviors you have learned from being in a family with someone who has substance abuse issues, read "The Laundry List" by Tony A and Dan F. It was a HUGE wakeup call for me. [/QUOTE]
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