kim75062
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Unfortunately there are no programs here for kids with the issues he has. They still are trying to use interventions with reasoning that would make sense for typical kids. We all know he is not a typical 1st grader. Why they insist these things will work is beyond me because in one breath they say "we don't know what to do, we've never dealt with anything like this before " and in the next breath its "this is how we handle this and we know it will work".
one example is - if he chooses to not finish his work for whatever reason, his hands hurt from writing etc. there plan is to THEN divide it up into small segments. (I guess doing that BEFORE the problem behavior happens is to much to ask for though it is in the plan we created 2 weeks ago) and if he still refuses to make him do it the next morning. BUT don't tell him its from the day before so he doesn't realize hes completing the work he refused to do. Present him a clean copy as if it is the work for that morning. Because if they don't make him finish it then its reinforcing the behavior of not wanting to do it. This is almost word for word on the plan I got from them yesterday. How is tricking him into doing work the following day going to re-enforce that he must complete his work if he doesn't even know hes doing yesterdays work? I told them in the meeting I was part of that if he refuses to do his work for whatever reason to send it home that same day and he will complete it at home to turn in the next day. that hasn't happened yet.
another example is if he gets angry and says " I'm mad!, I hate you! get away from me! or "I'm going to hit you"" there plan is to threaten him with restraint and threaten him with writing down a bad behavior mark. How about the fact that he actually said what he was feeling instead of kicking the teacher or running off? I do agree with the bad behavior mark because he is very worried about his "color" for the day. anyone that has kids that use those color charts in school knows its very serious business to these kids special needs or not. I'm not an expert but I don't think threatening a small child with violence is going to STOP violence. I have reread that plan probably 20 times trying to see if I was just reading it wrong and that's not what it says but it does. All I think of is these are probably the same people that believe that you can "spank" the ADHD out of kids still.
They also timed his cool down spot. He gets 6 minutes with a timer to "cool down". anymore then that would be reinforcing that he can go there to avoid doing his work. Really? Since when does anyone get to decide how long HIS anxiety is allowed to last? I'm sure the timer is a GREAT help with making his anxiety go away in the cool down spot to.
I did home school him the end of last year and have no problem doing it again. I may try to find some home school groups in the area to set up group activities and/or play dates for him though. I didnt look into it last year because it was a temp solution until the school figured out how they were going to be able to handle him over the summer. But they didn't work on anything until the first day back to school so it was a complete waste of 6 months anyway.
one example is - if he chooses to not finish his work for whatever reason, his hands hurt from writing etc. there plan is to THEN divide it up into small segments. (I guess doing that BEFORE the problem behavior happens is to much to ask for though it is in the plan we created 2 weeks ago) and if he still refuses to make him do it the next morning. BUT don't tell him its from the day before so he doesn't realize hes completing the work he refused to do. Present him a clean copy as if it is the work for that morning. Because if they don't make him finish it then its reinforcing the behavior of not wanting to do it. This is almost word for word on the plan I got from them yesterday. How is tricking him into doing work the following day going to re-enforce that he must complete his work if he doesn't even know hes doing yesterdays work? I told them in the meeting I was part of that if he refuses to do his work for whatever reason to send it home that same day and he will complete it at home to turn in the next day. that hasn't happened yet.
another example is if he gets angry and says " I'm mad!, I hate you! get away from me! or "I'm going to hit you"" there plan is to threaten him with restraint and threaten him with writing down a bad behavior mark. How about the fact that he actually said what he was feeling instead of kicking the teacher or running off? I do agree with the bad behavior mark because he is very worried about his "color" for the day. anyone that has kids that use those color charts in school knows its very serious business to these kids special needs or not. I'm not an expert but I don't think threatening a small child with violence is going to STOP violence. I have reread that plan probably 20 times trying to see if I was just reading it wrong and that's not what it says but it does. All I think of is these are probably the same people that believe that you can "spank" the ADHD out of kids still.
They also timed his cool down spot. He gets 6 minutes with a timer to "cool down". anymore then that would be reinforcing that he can go there to avoid doing his work. Really? Since when does anyone get to decide how long HIS anxiety is allowed to last? I'm sure the timer is a GREAT help with making his anxiety go away in the cool down spot to.
I did home school him the end of last year and have no problem doing it again. I may try to find some home school groups in the area to set up group activities and/or play dates for him though. I didnt look into it last year because it was a temp solution until the school figured out how they were going to be able to handle him over the summer. But they didn't work on anything until the first day back to school so it was a complete waste of 6 months anyway.
